I went to a shower almost two months ago for a friend of my FI. It was open invite via Facebook, and I came with a gift off her registry. We don't really know each other, but I wanted to go because I love showers and I love giving people presents. I didn't get to see her open it because the whole shower was a bit hectic (think church shower; everyone is there and it's loud and you're lucky if you can get through the crowd of other ladies to even say hello to the bride), and I had to leave early. The wedding was this weekend, and I wasn't able to attend because it was Thanksgiving (Canadian), and I wanted to see my family (I'm not sure if that's rude or not, but I'm not going to go to a wedding for people I only know through my FI and sacrifice seeing my family that I never get to see).
I asked FI if the bride had mentioned my shower gift, but he said that she didn't. Not surprising, since I'm betting my shower is going to be the last thing on my mind on the day. However, I still haven't received a thank you. Not a card, not a Facebook message, not even something through my FI. I wouldn't dream of asking her why she hadn't thanked me yet, however is it too early to be wondering where it is? Is it customary to include thank yous for your shower with thank yous for your wedding? FI and I did give them a wedding gift as well. Maybe she'll double up her thank yous on one card?