Divorced Parents of the Bride Invites

mbarnes87

I'm trying to determine proper wording for our wedding invites and am struggling.

My parents divorced a few years back and it was not pretty. For a long time, my mom and I haven't had a great relationship but I don't want to offend her. When we first started planning the wedding last summer, she was involved. She even purchased my dress as well as a down payment for our DJ and Photographer. She said she was going to help with the balance but knowing her, she won't. Since September, we've talked once. She has lost complete interest.

My dad has been heavily involved in the planning and financial aspect. We sat down and he even offered to cover when/if my mom falls through.

What would be the proper way to write our invites without offending others. Neither have remarried.

zitiqueen

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[QUOTE]I'm trying to determine proper wording for our wedding invites and am struggling. My parents divorced a few years back and it was not pretty. For a long time, my mom and I haven't had a great relationship but I don't want to offend her. When we first started planning the wedding last summer, she was involved. She even purchased my dress as well as a down payment for our DJ and Photographer. She said she was going to help with the balance but knowing her, she won't. Since September, we've talked once. She has lost complete interest. My dad has been heavily involved in the planning and financial aspect. We sat down and he even offered to cover when/if my mom falls through. What would be the proper way to write our invites without offending others. Neither have remarried.
Posted by mbarnes87[/QUOTE]

Together with their parents... mbarnes87 and MrMbarnes87 invite you blah blah blah.

Why are you concerned about offending her if your relationship isn't all that great to begin with?

JaxInBlue

I second together with their parents.  My parents are divorced (although they are in a good place) and also offered different forms of support.  Add in help from DH's parents as well as our own contribution and trying to list all the perceived hosts for our wedding would have cluttered up an invite.

We understood paying for something is not equivalent to hosting, but we wanted to balance the potential for hurt feelings with everything else.  Our invites were worded similarly to

Together with their parents
JaclyneD
and
Mr.JaclyneD
request the pleasure of your company...

Belais

My parents have been divorced quite awhile... For my first wedding, I worded it "Together with their families" (at the time my mom was remarried, but not my dad).

Twowarlocks

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[QUOTE]In Response to Divorced Parents of the Bride Invites : Together with their parents... mbarnes87 and MrMbarnes87 invite you blah blah blah. Why are you concerned about offending her if your relationship isn't all that great to begin with?
Posted by zitiqueen[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>Because it's her <em>mom</em>. I totally understand. I don't have a great relationship with my mother either, she drives me crazy but she's still my mom and I don't want to offend her. </div>