Hand Deliver=tacky? (& Intro)

CurlsNpearls12

Hi there! I thought I better introduce myself since I'm new to the boards. I've been lurking these forums for the last 5-6 months on my co-worker's username, so I'm not completely new to TK, but I might start posting here and there, so I figured I'd get that out there!

My FI and I are both twenty something- North Western PA- soon to be newlyweds! I'm in finance, and he owns his own Construction business. We got engaged in 2008, and now we've finally set a date for this August!

Well, anyways, my question is...If I see many of our wedding guests on a weekly basis, is it OK to hand deliver their formal invitations when the time comes? This would cut down a lot of postage cost, but if it's concidered against etiquette, I have no problem mailing all of them out. Thoughts?


TIA!

dumdumfroggie

I think that would be fine.  Just don't hand them out to someone in front of others that aren't invited.

Avion22

I think it's better to mail them.  The exception would maybe be close family (parents/siblings) that you see often, or roomates that you live with.

Consider work friends.  Unless you're inviting EVERYONE you work with, then it would be weird to hand out invitations at work.    I guess you could hand them out privately (say, if you meet a work friend for drinks).

But still...as a guest I love getting stuff in the mail.  And it's easier for me to make sure I respond since I already file my mail into things that need responses (like bills, etc).   And I think as a bride it's eaiser to have RSVPs come back by mail -- if someone just handed me an RSVP I'd probably lose it.  

aragx6

The world certainly won't end if you hand deliver them, but mailing them is more formal. And people love getting stuff in the mail. How many invitations are we talking about? Even if it's 50, that's still less than $23 difference.

CurlsNpearls12

Mailing them it is! Thanks gals

ootmother2

Mail them.

and Welcome

CurlsNpearls12

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_hand-delivertacky-intro?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:d5f4c1d0-adcd-4c12-ad67-7cb787aec945Post:6b55cee3-0b8a-4f15-9d52-054375eb39ba">Re: Hand Deliver=tacky? (& Intro)</a>:
[QUOTE]The world certainly won't end if you hand deliver them, but mailing them is more formal. And people love getting stuff in the mail. How many invitations are we talking about? <strong>Even if it's 50, that's still less than $23 difference.
</strong>Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]

This is a good point.

achiduck

I much prefer to receive things like this in the mail.

maribeth721

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_hand-delivertacky-intro?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d5f4c1d0-adcd-4c12-ad67-7cb787aec945Post:c806e681-10b0-4589-b65b-bea28cbb8499">Re: Hand Deliver=tacky? (& Intro)</a>:
[QUOTE]I love getting mail.  So I'd vote mail them. I also think hand delivery is more appropriate for birthday parites.
Posted by crfb87[/QUOTE]

Agreed. Mail says formal. Hand deliver says informal.

rebarobert2012

I am from northwestern PA, too!

I think it would be more formal to mail them, but I don't think that it's wrong to hand deliver them.  It's really up to you.  However, I agree with PP's advice that you shouldn't hand them out to people in front of others that are not invited.

number55

I would care if you hand delivered the invites just don't hand deliver EVERYTHING. One of DH's friends waiting til she saw us (not that often) to give us the invite, a thank you for our shower gift and a thank you for our wedding gift. That saved her a total of $1.71.  By the last thank you I knew it was going to be hand delivered and it just seemed cheap. I mean I get it, you see us every three months, but you can't be bothered to spend 57cents on a stamp?  I will admit to judging it as cheap, even though I 'get' why it made sense.

ZombieNates

Whenever I read about hand delivery, I picture My Super Sweet Sixteen, when they'd have those dramatic invitation deliveries.

Not saying that's what you had in mind, OP.

melntaitt

I don't know; I wouldn't because some of the people I work with aren't invited and it would just make for a weird moment.

toothpastechica

I am hand delievering some and mailing some, people who i see on a regular basis (like at least once a week) im giving, in private though, not in front of other people. People who i would have to go out of my way to deliever them or that i only see every couple weeks  to i am mailing them.

tenofcups4me

I love getting mail that isn't a bill or an ad. Hell, we even mailed one to ourselves so we could see what it looked like delivered as a complete package (ok, I say "we," but that was really all my idea.)

entropicbeauty

I am hand delivering a very few invites to close family and the bridal party, but the rest are getting mailed out.