Between a rock and a hard place...

crutonlover

Hi,

I need some advice...
This past week, I recieved a wedding gift in the mail from a person that I haven't talked to in about 2 years and honestly do not care to talk to.  This person was not invited to the wedding, but now, since she sent me a gift, I feel obligated to invite her.  My mom agrees that I need to invite her, but some of my bridesmaids are telling me that I shouldn't feel obligated to invite her.
What are your thoughts/advice??
Thanks!

Mrs.B6302007

Gifts do not mandate an invite.

aleighk1

You're not obligated. Send a nice thank you card and you'll be fine.

mica178

Ditto Mrs. B. 

We had a bunch of random family friends who were not invited to the wedding send gifts. Most people understand that we can't invite everyone know, but many still want to send a token of congratulations.

hz80408

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[QUOTE]You're not obligated. Send a nice thank you card and you'll be fine.
Posted by aleighk1[/QUOTE]

This.

For all you know, she could have intentionally sent the gift, hoping for an invite...or maybe she just genuinely wanted to give you something.

Bkseller13

Gifts mandate a thank you card, nothing more, nothing less.

cengle

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[QUOTE]You're not obligated. Send a nice thank you card and you'll be fine.
Posted by aleighk1[/QUOTE]


Yup. This.

AdeleDazeem

I've sent gifts to my friends when I wasn't invited to their wedding.  I was thrilled for them and wanted them to know.

I never, ever expected an invite out of it and never got one.

mob2689

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_between-rock-hard-place?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:d6151b19-d488-4839-9253-e431ca671918Post:c0c3b451-3f41-4339-96eb-1ef1bcd469d4">Re: Between a rock and a hard place...</a>:
[QUOTE]Gifts mandate a thank you card, nothing more, nothing less.
Posted by Bkseller13[/QUOTE]
 This

JessAndTrav

Yes, a gift =/= an invite. A thank you card is fine.

In other news, I'm sure it was intentional, but I'm amused that you're cruton lover, not crouton lover.

LDYGTR13

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[QUOTE]Yes, a gift =/= an invite. A thank you card is fine. In other news, <strong>I'm sure it was intentional, but I'm amused that you're cruton lover, not crouton lover.</strong>
Posted by JessAndTrav[/QUOTE]

i 2 i!

JessAndTrav

I mean, whatev, I have a really lame username too, so it's not like I should be throwing stones in my glass house, but cruton instead of crouton just makes me giggle a little.

crutonlover

Thanks for the advice!

haha yes name was intentional!   My fiance's last name is Curton (pronounced like "cure" and "ton") and one day my students (I'm a teacher) gave me a note that said that when I got married, my last name would sound like cruton (they meant to spell crouton).  I told my fiance and we both died laughing.   The joke has stuck with us ever since