save the dates?

stumpie3

we got our E pictures back!  YAY   so we are getting ready to put together save the dates.  we have people invited from mulitple states and countries so they were def going to get a STD but do we need to send everyone invited a STD? 

side notes: there is a huge conference in downtown (where the wedding is) that weekend so rooms are going fast...STD's would include that info...IT guests wouldn't need that but OOT guests would so STD's are necessary

we are inviting work people...I don't really think they need STD's? 

any help would be great!  Thanks! 

LeiselEB

We only gave STD's to our out of town guests, and to our closest family and friends. You definitely don't need to give one to every guest, just be sure that anyone who receives an STD also gets an invitation. 

ericaandtom2012

We only sent out STDs to people we knew we wanted to invite. We did not include coworkers or far extended family members in the list. We ended up sending out nearly twice as many invitations vs. STDs. As long as all STS recipients receive an invitation you're fine.

courtski2004

As someone who lived to regret giving everyone and their mother a save the date, I would recommend only sending them out to OOT family and close friends, while emphasizing the importance of booking their hotel accommodations early.

As far as work folks, I would hold off on inviting them especially if you are inviting some because you're inviting others. I was laid off 3 months before my wedding and had given out STD's to co-workers who I only invited because I had included others within a particular workgroup. Did I want to see those people at my wedding after my employment was terminated (although being laid off was better than having been fired)? Not exactly. Were they adult enough to not come after they received their invitation? Thankfully, yes.

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I agree with PPs. I'm sending out about 100 STDs (about half of the invited houses). 

Something I kept in mind (and drove the number up a bit) was to do it in circles. If I sent one to one aunt, I sent it to other aunts on that same side since they talked to each other. I didn't want someone to feel hurt or think they were NOT going to be invited.

I also am NOT giving work STDs. It's less of "I don't know if I would invite them," because we have talked about the wedding and they know about it, so I will be inviting them, but I'm not inviting EVERYONE in the office, only those I'm close to, and I don't want it laying around on their desks or saying "Hey! I got your STD in the mail!" in front of someone I'm not inviting.

lifeonthehill

I had no intentions of sending my STD cards to everyone to try and save on postage. But the minimum urder was one hundred so I am sending them to the entire guest list just to use them up! I will still have 25 or more left over!

OwningAHome1981

We sent STDs to everyone.

s-aries8990

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[QUOTE]But the minimum urder was one hundred so I am sending them to the entire guest list just to use them up! I will still have 25 or more left over! I think this is a big mistake.   You must invite everyone who gets a STD.   Things change over time.  Its a lot better to throw out some STDs rather than deal with not having enough room/money for everyone and have to make decisions based on who got STDs.
Posted by NYUgirl100[/QUOTE]

I think she sent them out to guests she was sure she was going to invite and had room for. She didn't seem as though she was sending them to people on the fringe list

DMoore421

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[QUOTE]we got our E pictures back!  YAY :)  so we are getting ready to put together save the dates.  we have people invited from mulitple states and countries so they were def going to get a STD but do we need to send everyone invited a STD?  side notes: there is a huge conference in downtown (where the wedding is) that weekend so rooms are going fast...STD's would include that info...IT guests wouldn't need that but OOT guests would so STD's are necessary we are inviting work people...I don't really think they need STD's?  any help would be great!  Thanks!  :)
Posted by stumpie3[/QUOTE]

I am sending mine to in and out of town guests - everything i happening at the hotel - ceremony and reception so I am sending them to everyone so they have the option of getting a room if they want and I know some in town guests will just to have a noght out without kids AND not worry about driving after drinking.
If there i a convention in town then and rooms are going fast have you gotten a block of hotel rooms set up ?

DramaGeek

We didn't do STDs, we just called or emailed the VIPs so they knew what was going on.  That included OOT family and close friends/family who were in town.