RSVP Question

Kokes28

FI wants to do "e-mail RSVPs"... first of all, I don't even know what this means. Second of all.. I'd much rather do it on paper. I just feel like paper is more personable and also we have a better shot of actually getting everyone to respond that way as not all guests are going to be savy enough to figure out an e-mail RSVP... thoughts?

Kokes28

Sorry for the double post, my internet is a bit unresponsive today!

hboo2011

I vote paper.

ShadowCutter

Yeah it does that with replies too. Email RSVP means they email you and say if they're coming or not. Why not have both options plus phone? Or the website thing? I've seen all those options. It says something like "RSVP to [name] at [phone number] or [email address]". If you like paper add "or send in the RSVP card". Btw the PO system has been a bit sloppy lately. It's probably just here and there but we got something in the mail that had been ripped up in the machine and then taped up and put in a plastic bag. The worst thing that's somewhat likely to happen with email is it gets sent to your spam folder. I'm not sure how many people would actually send an RSVP in the mail but personally I prefer email or website. Of course if most of the people you personally know happen to prefer mailing things than email then do the mail-in thing. I think my guests will have a couple different preferences but most would respond more quickly online. I'll have the different options.

cebrady89

I personally would hate replying by email - I just think a wedding is a big enough event to warrant paper response cards. I worry that your guests might not take their RSVP seriously if it was an email or website type of thing.

mbody

My vote is for paper. E-rsvps just seem a bit tacky to me.

adamar15

<div align="left">In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_rsvp-question-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:d6b8a05f-2781-4668-b7e2-b0f481768141Post:68a6bc1f-4a63-419d-8246-5c618b6f89f3">Re: RSVP Question</a>:
[QUOTE]I personally would hate replying by email - I just think a wedding is a big enough event to warrant paper response cards. I worry that your guests might not take their RSVP seriously if it was an email or website type of thing.
Posted by cebrady89[/QUOTE]

My guests all took it seriously. 

OP, I only did email RSVPs and it worked out just fine and saved me money on extra paper and stamps.</div>

calibud8

definately paper!

tpender13

I prefer paper RSVPs. You could do them on a postcard so it wouldn't be quite as expensive. Ours had a picture of the spot H proposed along with our address on the front, and the back was set up like this.

Jane Smith chx__ beef__ declines__
John Smith chx__ beef__ declines__

Though ours was a relatively small wedding (only 40something invititations for 80 or so people) so the expense wasn't a huge issue.

Kokes28

We are only having about 80 people as well, so I dont think that paper would be that big of an expense either. And I do like the idea of giving them the option, but I dont like the extra work involved in sorting out the emails and compiling a final list from emails and paper ones that got sent back. 

I'm not concenerd about people not taking it seriously, I just think it's easier to forget to send out an e-mail. Also, it's not that I think its tacky, I just don't think its as... formal I guess.