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Etiquette on Bridal Shower for Destination Wedding

allure18allure18 member
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My sister is getting married in Scotland in the summer. No guests will be invited to the ceremony. Is it proper to host a bridal shower for her if no one is invited to the wedding? She is planning a wedding reception when they travel back to the USA.
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  • AdeleDazeemAdeleDazeem member
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    Only those invited to the actual wedding ceremony can be invited to the shower.

    Scotland!  That sounds awesome!

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  • MrsMack10612MrsMack10612 member
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    No.  She shouldn't have a shower.

    Only those invited to the wedding should be invited to pre-wedding parties (showers, bachelorettes, etc.).

    If no one is being invited to the ceremony, there would be no one to invite to the parties.

     

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  • itzMSitzMS member
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    Ehhh, I'd be a little more flexible on this. Since she is truly having a private ceremony.

    Is the at-home reception already scheduled and within a few weeks of her ceremony?

    If so, I think it's fine.

    If she doesn't have a date or guest list set for the at-home reception, then it's not appropriate.
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  • misssunshine17misssunshine17 member
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    No. It screams "give me presents even though you're not invited to the actual event."

    Also, this reception at home can be a kick ass party but she shouldn't wear a big white dress or have any traditional 'wedding' things like spotlight dances or cake cutting.
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  • allure18allure18 member
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    Thanks for the timely advice! I'm pushing my sister to start planning and setting the dates soon. The ceremony is about 4 months away. The reception will be within 2 weeks of the ceremony. I'm sure that if she has a bridal shower, it will be for those who are invited to the reception. I don't want her to look greedy by having the showers, but I know some people would like to host or attend one for her.
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  • AdeleDazeemAdeleDazeem member
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    Is the ceremony really going to be just her and her husband?  Not even you, her sister, is invited?

    We invited parents and siblings to our wedding in Bermuda.  I had a super small shower with my mom, sister, grandmother and godmother.  It was awesome - high tea with champagne!  I got one gift - a beautiful new camera.  I loved every second of it.

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  • allure18allure18 member
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    Well, her fiancé's parents and his grandfather (native to Scotland) will be there. Fortunately for them, the grandfather has already paid for their flight tickets! The rest of their family technically is invited, but none of us can afford to go. It's about $1600 a ticket to fly there, not including room and board, etc.
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  • AdeleDazeemAdeleDazeem member
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    edited March 2013
    Ahh... that's what I was getting at.  You guys are invited, but can't afford it?

    If that's the case, then I'd give her a shower with close family - ie. people who are technically invited to the Scotland but can't afford it.

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  • MoxieMickieMoxieMickie member
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    edited October 2013

     

     

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