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Which name first?

I am working on thank you notes from my wedding and wonder what is the proper way to sign them? 

Re: Which name first?

  • I've always seen whomever is actually doing the writing first, and the other name second.
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  • The correct way is to mention your spouse in the note and then sign your name.  For example

    Dear Aunt Sue,

    Blah blah Blah…John and I love the beautiful vase you gave us…Blah Blah Blah

    With love, Becky

     
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_name-first?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:d780716b-3e60-4ca3-8cbd-3c0120c89018Post:76f24e78-175b-40e1-99cb-5a9d89c84e9c">Re: Which name first?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I've always seen whomever is actually doing the writing first, and the other name second.
    Posted by squirrly[/QUOTE]

    This is what I've seen too.

    The following poster is actually correct that according to the most old-school etiquette, only one person should sign it, but I've only received one thank you note like that in my whole life from a wedding (and thought it was really weird -- the gift was for both people; of course both people should sign the thank you).
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_name-first?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:d780716b-3e60-4ca3-8cbd-3c0120c89018Post:8690cf57-cc69-450e-aebb-0d540e0d50d9">Re: Which name first?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm very old school.  The bride writes the thank you notes, mentioning her spouse, and signs them.  I know.  It's not fair.
    Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]

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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_name-first?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:d780716b-3e60-4ca3-8cbd-3c0120c89018Post:8690cf57-cc69-450e-aebb-0d540e0d50d9">Re: Which name first?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm very old school.  The bride writes the thank you notes, mentioning her spouse, and signs them.  I know.  It's not fair.
    Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]

    It's only not fair if you try to impose it on someone else. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-tongue-out.gif" border="0" alt="Tongue out" title="Tongue out" /> If you want to be the one who writes them all, you're welcome to it. Though I do reserve the right to think you're really weird for only signing your own name. In my crazy feminist household, we each wrote our own notes to our own friends and family and were both happy with that division.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_name-first?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d780716b-3e60-4ca3-8cbd-3c0120c89018Post:8690cf57-cc69-450e-aebb-0d540e0d50d9">Re: Which name first?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm very old school.  The bride writes the thank you notes, mentioning her spouse, and signs them.  I know.  It's not fair.
    Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]We pretty much did this.  However, since there were two brides, it was perfectly fair.  ;-)
  • We each wrote our own notes also.  However, whoever wrote the note mentioned the other in the body and then signed his or her name. 

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