Guest list - college friends?

amsdallasbride

I set my guest list with current friends & coworkers (and of course family and FI's list...).
We're about at 120 guests, our site will be fine for 170 or less.

We're about to send save the dates and it got me thinking - I wonder if I ought include 4 or 5 college friends... I was in 3 of their weddings, and we all kept up until they all moved away (I still in Dallas where we went to school) got married and had kids.   (I'm 34, this is my first marriage.. they all got married 6-10 years ago.)

We were close in college, we have the budget to add them.. but I guess I wasn't wanting to feel pressure on the wedding day where I'd be trying to catch up.  Currently we exchange a facebook message or "like" every couple months... but just all truly busy and in our own social circles in our respective cities and 4 of them have young kids...

Being the last to marry, I know they are all excited for me and they've sent messages/wall posts to share their genuine excitement, so that is really sweet...

I just can't decide what's best.  Let me know if you have any thoughts.  Thanks!!

carolemb

It's up to you!
Personally, I regret not inviting more of my college friends. It was great to see the ones I did invite and we actually did most of our catching up via email before the wedding.
The majority probably would not have been able to make it due to travel, but I do wish I'd included them if only to have reached out and re-connected. One of the great things about wedding IMO is that it's an opporunity to re-connect with old friends and loved ones.
But, it's up to you

[Deleted User]

Don't feel obligated to invite them just because you went to theirs. Try to imagine your life 10 years from now. Would you feel sad that you didn't invite them? If the answer's yes then invite them.

AdeleDazeem

My husband and I were the last of our college friends to marry by a lot.  We only get to see them every once and awhile and we all certainly don't get to hang out as a group any more.  Most of them have young children.

We invited as many of them as we could.  Most of them came.  We all had a blast getting to catch up and see each other.  My husband and I had many people to see, but the rest enjoyed catching up with each other.

TheSlowskys

I might skip sending them a STD but revisit sooner to the wedding to see how you feel.

EK2013

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[QUOTE]I set my guest list with current friends & coworkers (and of course family and FI's list...). We're about at 120 guests, our site will be fine for 170 or less. We're about to send save the dates and it got me thinking - I wonder if I ought include 4 or 5 college friends... I was in 3 of their weddings, and we all kept up until they all moved away (I still in Dallas where we went to school) got married and had kids.   (I'm 34, this is my first marriage.. they all got married 6-10 years ago.) We were close in college, we have the budget to add them.. but I guess I wasn't wanting to feel pressure on the wedding day where I'd be trying to catch up.  Currently we exchange a facebook message or "like" every couple months... but just all truly busy and in our own social circles in our respective cities and 4 of them have young kids... Being the last to marry, I know they are all excited for me and they've sent messages/wall posts to share their genuine excitement, so that is really sweet... I just can't decide what's best.  Let me know if you have any thoughts.  Thanks!!
Posted by amsdallasbride[/QUOTE]

<div>Do you want them there? If so, invite them. </div><div>If they say "yes," they won't be expecting more than a 5 minute table visit if you would find more catching up stressful.</div>