Let's discuss the latest.
1. I don't really understand why this is a secret. You're being forgetful about your pills, that's not shameful, it's just kind of dumb. Not dumb that you forget once in a while, but am I the only one who counts the pills each night to double check that I took yesterday's so I can take two at a time if necessary?
2. Wow, what a shitty thing to say. First of all, I don't understand how "divorce current husband" wasn't high up there on the wedding check list. And then ok, if it wasn't - or something happened that made it took longer, or god knows what - and you found yourself with the divorce not yet finalized and all the plans a go, then I understand going ahead with the "wedding." I even kind of understand not publicizing it if everyone thinks you're already divorced (not that I'd do it, but I get how that would be tough). But the "it's my day, I do what I want" sentiment is not a necessary part of your situation, it's just you showing your true colors.
3. I'm sorry. I just want to give you a hug.