A thought...sometimes not a good thing:)

jmkaiser

I know I have asked you ladies alot of questions about the co-workers and based off your comments I decided it was best to not invite them. I still want to let them know that I appreciate all their help and suggestions though. Do you think it would be okay and not hurtful or offensive to send them a thank you note (to their home) thanking them for being so great during this wedding planning process and let them know how much I appreciate them.

Is that too much or do you think it would be a nice gesture since I can't invite them to the ceremony/reception to thank them.

LisaChris2011

It would be a nice gesture, but honestly not required or necessary. 

RobotLegs

I'd find it really weird if I received a card like this. 

Avion22

Maybe you could have them all over to dinner at your home?  While I think getting cards and notes is always nice, it would be weird to thank people for their help with your wedding when you're not inviting them.  But having them over to your house lets them know that you value the time you get to spend with them as friends.  

laurenclaire1386

I don't know about this. It's kind of like saying, "Hey, thanks for helping me plan/giving your input on this awesome party that you weren't invited to." I guess it depends on what wedding related stuff they helped you with, but I kind of feel like it just highlights the fact that you didn't invite them. If you just want to send them a thank you note saying hey thanks for being an awesome friend/coworker, and not make it about the wedding, I think that would be better. This is all just my opinion, so take it with a grain of salt.

LDYGTR13

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_thoughtsometimes-not-good-thing?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d8ceb826-f106-4a77-be04-15538220c098Post:299e7ee1-dfb0-41c9-8ad1-b91e5064b9f0">Re: A thought...sometimes not a good thing:)</a>:
[QUOTE]I'd find it really weird if I received a card like this. 
Posted by RobotLegs[/QUOTE]

My thoughts exactly - you don't get to come, but thanks for putting up with me!

xyrius

I would not send a note, but maybe take them out to lunch or something and thank them for being great friends in general.

jmkaiser

I've done my best to not talk wedding at work but when I'm asked about it I will share as little as necesary. But a few months ago we found out our reception location was being foreclosed on and we wouldn't be getting a deposit back from the company even though they changed the agreement completely. I consulted our lawyer here but that's about it other than some unsolicited but helpful advice and reccomendations. They've just been consistantly asking when the invites are going out (hint hint I feel on their part).

Yeah I didn't want to make it seem weird or offensive in any way which is why I"m asking. I just thought it would be better to say hey thanks for your input and advice than to ignore the fact that I'm not inviting them.

Again, it was just a thought and I'm not sure a good one but I figured you guys would be the best judges of that:)

aragx6

I think a thank-you note for the attorney who looked at your contract would certainly be appropriate, but for the others I think it would be awkward. I second (third?) the idea of taking them out for a lunch -- not as a specific thank you, but just a "hey I like you and you're important to me"