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No response---no invite?

FI and I did another round of e-mails to get addresses from people we want to invite and we have not heard back from some. We told them invites are going out soon. If they don't get back to us in time is it rude not to invite them?

Re: No response---no invite?

  • If you have no way of getting an invitation to them, you don't have much choice. That said, I would call these people before you write them off - not everyone treats email requests as urgent.
  • There were some people who did the same with us. We tried a phone call, then another email, then it was like "ok dude, I'm not waiting on your azz to send these invitations." So yeah, after three attempts if I still didnt' have an address, they got no invitation. As long as you're making reasonable effort to get the place to send the invitation, I don't think anyone can fault you for not doing it.
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  • I would probably start making phone calls before I decided not to invite them.  It's possible they use a different e-mail address from the one you have now.  You might also be able to find their address on whitepages.com
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  • Call them or have whoever is close to them (your parents or his) try to get their addresses.

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  • Can you ask your parents or other relatives that you may have contact info for before just excluding them?
  • For family members who you have trouble getting ahold of, I would try getting it from another family member. I had a couple of cousins who didn't answer my requests for addresses and so I got one cousin from another (their sibling). Another finally did respond but it was a couple weeks later so I just sent theirs late. This was for STDs though so now at least I'm ready when it comes to wedding invites.
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  • Thank you ladies! First I have to say I like this board so much more than all the others.

    The people we're missing addresses from are friends that we don't see very often but would like to iinvite. I've texted, verybally told them to send me it, and e-mailed and still nothing and I want to get everything out this weekend. We sent out an e-mail like 4 months ago asking as well so it's not like it's a last minute request.

    Just wanted to know from you ladies if I would be getting any hate calls for not sending an invite...even though I still might:)
  • Well, if you do, tell them that you tried ten ways til Sunday and didn't get a response from them; how the hell were you supposed to get their addresses?  Divine intervention?
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  • I think if you've sent two e-mails and called (leave a message if they aren't there) once, you are probably off the hook. If you really want them there, you could try asking around or switchboard.com stalking. 
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