Inviting a few coworkers

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I have been at my job for about 4 years but only work a couple hours a day, and I'm not close to the majority of my coworkers. But there are a few that have been asking a lot of questions about the wedding and are very intersted in all the details. So I have started to talk to about the wedding plans and ideas with them.
 

The plan from the start was that we were going to have a small family wedding but I am starting to feel guilty about not inviting coworkers. Would it be ok to invite the coworkers I am closer with and excluded others? And would I need to invite my bosses? 

 

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[QUOTE]I have been at my job for about 4 years but only work a couple hours a day, and I'm not close to the majority of my coworkers. But there are a few that have been asking a lot of questions about the wedding and are very intersted in all the details. <strong>So I have started to talk to about the wedding plans and ideas with them.</strong>   The plan from the start was that we were going to have a small family wedding but I am starting to feel guilty about not inviting coworkers. Would it be ok to invite the coworkers I am closer with and excluded others? And would I need to invite my bosses?   
Posted by stephaniebrandon20[/QUOTE]

Bad idea.

Co-workers are the exception to the rule. I do suggest that you keep talk of the wedding at a minimum or you are just going to make things bad for yourself the closer you get to sending out invites, etc.

jmkaiser

I'm in this position too. Unfortunately even with minimal wedding talk around the office I get asked constantly. I know everyone I work with would love to come and that's why they are hinting but I honestly can not afford it.

I've just decided to not invite any of them and if asked I'm going to just be honest and say I'd love to and I've tried to make it work but we can't afford it. I know they'll understand and won't have hurt feelings.

b0710

Talking about the wedding makes people feel "involved" and typically they expect an invite if they seem really interested in the wedding talk.  I would say it's up to budget and room if you invite them or not.  This is only my opinion, but if you are as close to your boss as the other co-workers you are considering inviting, you should invite the boss too.  If you aren't close at all, I wouldn't worry about it if you decide to invite them at all.

meltomorrow

I'm in the same situation. I work at a large place and know many people, as much as I have tried to keep wedding talk at a minimum people still ask. We decided not to invite anyone from my work because there are so many people plus I d like to keep my personal life personal. My boss however has made many joking "wheres our invite" comments. I do feel sort of guilty but It would be so awkward seeing my boss and some coworkers in a social setting.