asking for addresses via email?

ginadog

A few people hand delivered us gifts recently.  I do not have their addresses, I don't know where they live, nor can I find them in the local phone book or any online search engines (zabasearch.com, etc). 

 

I can EMAIL them directly asking for their address, but then do your or do you not mention the gift in that email is my question?

 

Like, "Oh we loved your gift!  Thank you so much; that was above and beyond!  Can I you send me your address?  I'd like to send you a thank you card."

 

That just seems weird to me 1) thanking them via email "first," then 2) thanking them again via snailmail.  Then it seems odd to not mention the gift but randomly ask for their address and they may wonder why.

 

What does etiquette say?

achiduck

I'm in Canada and we have Canada411 where you can look up the address of anyone who has a listed home phone. Do you have something like that you can try first?

If not, asking someone for their address via e-mail is fine. I wouldn't mention the gift.

Kate61487

If this is someone you talk to semi-regularly I'd just email asking for the address and not mention the gift.

If this is someone you NEVER see, and the gift was the most recent contact you've had with them for a while where an email out of the blue might seem odd then you probably should preface it somehow...

Are you inviting these people to the wedding?  are you planning on sending out Christmas cards this year?  If either of those are true than you can say that's why you're asking so you don't awkwardly thank them for the gift twice.

Calypso1977

who are the people giving these gifts?  does no one in your family know them or have an address? 

ginadog

No, the wedding already took place (in August in Canada).

These are people who I invited to a "casual fall party" we hosted last weekend at our house.  I see these people and enjoy talking with them at other social gatherings.

I don't send holiday cards.

ginadog

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_asking-for-addresses-via-email?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d9b51833-a7cc-4fb2-a71e-45f8c2bd83afPost:646d9d47-4d6d-40b3-a151-cdee178539f8">Re: asking for addresses via email?</a>:
[QUOTE]who are the people giving these gifts?  does no one in your family know them or have an address? 
Posted by Calypso1977[/QUOTE]

These are people we know in our town - acquaintances in social circles.  They have nothing to do with my family which is several states away.

How about emailing her saying, "<em>It was so great to see you guys this weekend!  Would you mind sending me your address</em>?"  Then I can formally thank them with the card?

achiduck

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: asking for addresses via email? :How about emailing her saying, " It was so great to see you guys this weekend!  Would you mind sending me your address ?"  Then I can formally thank them with the card?
Posted by ginadog[/QUOTE]

Yup, that's perfect.

Calypso1977

i think what you propose is fine then.

libby2483

I think that what you proposed sounds great.