A Porcelain Bridal Doll

HandBanana

Every year for Christmas I received a porcelain doll from my grandmother for Christmas.  They each had red hair and she would pick them out because they somehow reminded her of me.  When I turned 13 I received a wedding porcelain doll.  

Since the age of 13 these dolls have been in storage.  They scared me when I was little and honestly they scare me now.

My mom wants to put the wedding porcelain doll on display at the entry table when people pick up their seating card.  I told her before that I didn't want to do it and it scares me.  Tonight, she brought it up and said how she is going to put it out for me so I don't have to worry about it.  She then pulled it out.  I almost laughed because I thought she was teasing me.  Thank goodness I didn't because she is serious.

She saw my face and added "It would mean so much to Gram."  At this point I'm okay with it but

..... is there an etiquette law code somewhere that I can use as a reason that my mom can not put this scary doll on display at my wedding?

rachael.baker

dear god, porcelain dolls scare the crap out of me too! is there any way you could tie it in to the rehearsal dinner? is gram going to be at the wedding? i would try to push it into the RD!

ootmother2

wow, this is one etiquette quetion that i've never seen nor thought about.

Frankly, i would try to bow out of the display but i have no idea how to fill Granny in that you really don't like it.

It's late, let me think on this one and I'll get back to your tomorrow, okay?

It is an, ummm, unusual situation.

ciao for now

HandBanana

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[QUOTE]dear god, porcelain dolls scare the crap out of me too! is there any way you could tie it in to the rehearsal dinner? is gram going to be at the wedding? i would try to push it into the RD!
Posted by rachael.baker[/QUOTE]

The thing is my Gram doesn't care.  It really is my mom.

I think part of it is that my Gram picked the doll for me because the wedding dress resembles my moms wedding dress.

rachael.baker

Oh man! Is there anyway to shove the creepy doll into another family-specific celebratory thing (like my cousins are all OOT, so we're having a cousin's lunch)? I realize though with only 2 weeks to go, a lot of things can get kind of crazy!

My advice, try to shove the doll off onto a pre-wedding celebration or grin, bear it, and have one of your BMs take the doll off the entry table when your mom isn't looking (just kidding, kind of )

Good Luck! I wish I had better advice! Also, YAY to only 2 weeks until you're married!!

DramaGeek

Stick it on the gift table and have a BM bring a big "gift" (could just be a large gift bag with tissue) in and, whoops!  Dolly is blocked ;-)

Sarahkayfa

That's weird...can you bump it to the rehearsal dinner?

dianemc10

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[QUOTE]Maybe you could tell your mom that you're afraid the doll would get knocked over and damaged if it was out on display.  You'd rather keep it safe so you can hand it down to your own daughter some day.
Posted by LucyHC[/QUOTE]

<div>That's perfect. I would go with that. </div>

NOLAbridealmost

Yes!!  Pull the heirloom card.  That ALWAYS works. 

Or put it at the kid's table (since I am guessing you don't actually want to pass the creepy doll down to your daughter some day). 

courtney1188

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[QUOTE]Maybe you could tell your mom that you're afraid the doll would get knocked over and damaged if it was out on display.  You'd rather keep it safe so you can hand it down to your own daughter some day.
Posted by LucyHC[/QUOTE]

Definitely say this!

I ahd a great-uncle and aunt who did this for me all the time as a kid. Thank god my mom wouldn't dream of pulling anything like this.

Habs2Hart

Can you accidentally "lose" the dolly before the wedding?

Mrs.B6302007

I personally think the doll needs its own seat at the wedding.






=-D

Wrkn925

Hire someone to take a 'hit' out on the doll.

Make it disappear or accidentally get knocked over or something...

sarah0725

I'm sorry, but I kind of feel like this is one of those things where you should just humor your mom, kinda like how I'm humoring my FMIL by letting her design a theme for the candy table that is elaborate enough to be a mini-wedding in itself. It's not going to hurt anybody to put the doll out, it will mean a lot to your mom, and if you say yes, you don't have to listen to her yapping about it anymore. Sounds like a win-win for you.