HELP! Uninvited Chilren!

ASerbu

I need some major advise.  My fiance and I agreed that we did not want a dance floor full of toddlers running around our reception, and decided that the appropriate approach is to make the only exception family members.  (That is a total of 2 kids, one being our flower girl).  We made sure to specify on the invites who is invited by name, but just got back a RSVP and the guests wrote in their son.  He is 5 or 6 years old.  How do I approach them and in a nice way tell them their son is not invited?

EEKK!

ootmother2

Just make a phone call and tell them that it's an all adult affair.

They may accept that or perhaps they won't come without their child. What they did is poor etiquette anyhow

EbbyRose

Call them and kindly explain that chilren are not invited.

almost-a-bride

We had one couple do the same. We just called them to let them know that we were not having children at the wedding. I thought was a bigger deal then it actually was. I was so nervous to make that call. But they understood.

~Tuck~

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[QUOTE]We had one couple do the same. We just called them to let them know that we were not having children at the wedding. I thought was a bigger deal then it actually was. I was so nervous to make that call. But they understood.
Posted by almost-a-bride[/QUOTE]

<div>I had the same experience.  The couple I called was totally fine with leaving their child at home.</div>

kujerseygirl

We've had a similar issue, although our wedding is not adults only. We've received 2 response cards so far with children (3 children total) that were not invited. As of now, we're very far under our budgeted number of attendees, so we've chosen to not bring it up yet. Once we receive more RSVPs in the next few weeks (our deadline is early May), we will make a decision on whether to approach them about it or not. If we're close to our number, we will say something. If not, then we decided to just let it go.

Mrs.B6302007

"Hi Sally.  We recieved your RSVP card yesterday.  Thanks for being so prompt in returning it!  There does seems to be a slight miscommunication though.  Unfortunately, we can't accomodate little Johnny at the wedding.  We'll understand if this changes your ability to attend but we do hope you'll still be able to come."

Mrs.B6302007

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_uninvited-chilren?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:da539a40-4e42-45ab-bfa6-b42e2eb2765cPost:2dbb15ca-ca41-4593-b2db-ce68b7a8fd1b">Re: HELP! Uninvited Chilren!</a>:
[QUOTE]We've had a similar issue, although our wedding is not adults only. We've received 2 response cards so far with children (3 children total) that were not invited. As of now, we're very far under our budgeted number of attendees, so we've chosen to not bring it up yet. Once we receive more RSVPs in the next few weeks (our deadline is early May), we will make a decision on whether to approach them about it or not. If we're close to our number, we will say something. If not, then we decided to just let it go.
Posted by kujerseygirl[/QUOTE]


I would advise you to NOT let it go.  What about the other guests who knew the invite was not for children and made arrangements for their little angels?  When they show up for the wedding, they're not going to be happy to see that execptions were made for some.  They're not going to be happy that they spent money on a wedding gift AND a babysitter while other guests were allowed to bring their kids simply because there was room.