Unoffical save the dates?

Importedfloridian

The back story:  I've never met FI family (he rarely see them), but his sister friended me on facebook immeadiately after we got engaged and I sent her an email introducing myself and our intent to have a wedding this coming spring.  She seemed excited and said that she'd love to come.  A month later, my FI sent a group facebook message to his parents asking, in short, who wants to come to our wedding (I know, super rude, I did not approve).  But his mother replied and said that she's planning on coming as well.  We live a long drive and expensive plane ride from where his family lives.

Here's the question part:  Can I send his sister and mother informal save the dates now via email with hotel and area info, or should I wait til the formal ones go out at the 6 month mark?  

MattsPenguin

Since it's your future in-laws, by all means let them know about dates and where to stay, provided that you have it all figured out.  I wouldn't go around announcing it to everyone, but definitely your FI's family.

angelstar975

Since they are his immediate family, I think it's absolutely fine to send them an email with all that information before the actual STDs go out.

HappinessByTheKilowatt

They are going to be your family, so I would imagine giving them info is probably a good thing. I mean, my parents and inlaws certainly knew those details before our Save the Dates went out. Just tell them not to share it with the rest of the world, that you just wanted to give the two of them a heads up that this is the info everyone will be getting. Might be a nice way to help them feel included also (by giving them some info no one else has).

lyndausvi

As long as there is not a question on whether or not you are going to invited you can send anyone you want a heads up on dates, times, hotels, etc.     Especially your future in-laws.

Winnertag1

This reminds me of when my FI suggested that instead of invites we just make an event on FB and invite people from there and hed give those people who didnt have FB a call and give them their invite. I thought it was hilarious.

But no, there is no problem in giving immediate family informal wedding information/save the dates

Importedfloridian

My FI also suggested cutting cost by way of Facebook event invites and tuxedo tshirts... Maybe I'll send them a nice card and use it as an excuse to collect addresses for the real invites.

thurmanpowell

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unoffical-save-the-dates?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:db1e8e40-b1c7-4b0a-93d7-68818f256ac7Post:34c18526-a416-4162-bc6f-d172401d1e12">Re: Unoffical save the dates?</a>:
[QUOTE]This reminds me of when my FI suggested that instead of invites we just make an event on FB and invite people from there and hed give those people who didnt have FB a call and give them their invite. I thought it was hilarious. But no, there is no problem in giving immediate family informal wedding information/save the dates
Posted by DileniN[/QUOTE]

Haha, my FI and I have recieved TWO facebook wedding invites for this year....

Would not recommend.

sbelle85

We gave our family members (parents, siblings, and grandparents) hotel/date info almost as soon as we had it so that they could make their travel and hotel arrangements. They had booked their hotels before save the dates even went out.  I think it's fine.