So, a friend of mine just got this invite...

btrflykate1230

From the evite:

Turns out Andrew's family is huge, so to spare you the awkwardness of sitting at a table with a bunch of his relatives, we're having a separate party. JUST FOR YOU! .... Bring your favorite snacks and/or drinks!

She received a STD, so would you take this as... they invited too many people to the reception, sooo now they're hosting a separate party? That's exactly how I took it.

jajph1974

I wouldn't exactly say they're hosting a separate party, you know, because they're asking people to bring food and drinks and all.

That's pretty shiity

BecW2be

A separate potluck party. Ick. With a horrible attempt at marketing it as something special.

I'd RSVP no, and attach a good casserole recipe for good measure. You know, just in case the bride wants to contribute to her own special party.

ashmy211

That is really strange, I wouldn't know what to think!

jasmineh7777

So, they are uninviting friends to the actual wedding, and asking them to come to a seperate potluck party?

danieliza1127

Wow, that sucks.

JenniferC2010

Sounds like a 'You're second best, here's a party to celebrate our day - that you weren't invited to... oh and bring your own food and beverage (and gift)."

ivystar57

huh.  That is odd... 

btrflykate1230

Yeah, I have NO idea what this actually means. It really does sound like they're doing a separate thing for friends.

brookelynpaisley

Ha, I think we have a winner for tackiest wedding move of the day. Yikes. And way to make the groom feel like his family downright sucks: "to spare you the awkwardness." Well, thanks for the favor.

danieliza1127

Oh and yes, I would take this to mean that your friend won't be invited to the wedding after all but to make up for it, the bride and groom and throwing a pot luck later on.

baystateapple

Wow.  That's uniquely terrible.  I would RSVP no, and I wouldn't send a gift.  Maybe a card.  If I was feeling particularly nice that day.

FutureMrsTR

It's hilarious how they say, "So...it turns out Andrew's family is huge" like they had NO idea what his family was like before they started planning.  Who doesn't know how big their family is?  Did some secret relatives all of a sudden show up?

baystateapple

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_friend-of-mine-just-got-this-invite?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:db4e8842-72ad-4f4f-8109-005a06d01eb5Post:859ab4ad-051c-47a5-a9dc-239a40087f8b">Re: So, a friend of mine just got this invite...</a>:
[QUOTE]It's hilarious how they say, "So...it turns out Andrew's family is huge" like they had NO idea what his family was like before they started planning.  Who doesn't know how big their family is?  Did some secret relatives all of a sudden show up?
Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]
 
LOL.  Good point.  I didn't even think of that.

tidetravel

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_friend-of-mine-just-got-this-invite?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:db4e8842-72ad-4f4f-8109-005a06d01eb5Post:5f6141b7-4ae9-40fa-be14-5b9d459ddc70">So, a friend of mine just got this invite...</a>:
[QUOTE]From the evite: Turns out Andrew's family is huge, so to spare you the awkwardness of sitting at a table with a bunch of his relatives, we're having a separate party. JUST FOR YOU! .... <strong>Bring your favorite snacks and/or drinks</strong> ! She received a STD, so would you take this as... they invited too many people to the reception, sooo now they're hosting a separate party? That's exactly how I took it.
Posted by btrflykate1230[/QUOTE]

They forgot to include "gifts" in their list of things to bring.

FutureMrsTR

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_friend-of-mine-just-got-this-invite?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:db4e8842-72ad-4f4f-8109-005a06d01eb5Post:9b96fa61-5848-46a6-af60-2d26d312dae8">Re: So, a friend of mine just got this invite...</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to So, a friend of mine just got this invite... : They forgot to include "gifts" in their list of things to bring.
Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]

Because that would be <em>tacky</em>, Tide, sheesh.

NuggetBrain

Gross.  I would probably send an e-mail asking her what exactly I was being invited to, and if this meant that I wasn't invited to the wedding. 

robinmichael

That's insane. So they are univiting people, and "inviting" them to a newer, improved, reception, where they can even bring their own food! Yay. So what about the ceremony? Do you still get the "priviledge" of attending it? Crappy

CTGirl30

Lame. Yeah, I'd respond with something along the lines of "Soooo....does this mean I'm no longer invited to the actual wedding?"  And then once that's confirmed, "regretfully" decline.

I think that's probably the tackiest thing I've ever heard of.

Pirata13

Wow. Yeah, I don't know what I'd do or say in this situation. I like asking about being uninvited because, yeah, it makes the couple say exactly what they are doing.  Then I'd probably reply "um, so I'm univited from the wedding but you want me to come to a potluck party and bring my own food and drinks?!?!?!!?!?!?!?!"

It could actually be a really fun email exchange.  Fun in an uncomfortable to the bride kind of way.

SonaliPop

That is AWFUL. How rude! It is like telling you you guys weren't good enough and on top of it, she's telling you guys you need to fund the snacks...FALSE: Don't attend, and I wouldn't even know how to respond.

As someone who has been invited to a bachelorette party when I wasn't even invited to the wedding and THEN uninvited from that...I think that person who sent the invite is just as bad with manners.

Krysti21

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_friend-of-mine-just-got-this-invite?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:db4e8842-72ad-4f4f-8109-005a06d01eb5Post:30ba15ec-573a-4407-bfeb-c0d24ae791fc">Re: So, a friend of mine just got this invite...</a>:
[QUOTE]Lame. Yeah, I'd respond with something along the lines of "Soooo....does this mean I'm no longer invited to the actual wedding?"  And then once that's confirmed, "regretfully" decline. I think that's probably the tackiest thing I've ever heard of.
Posted by CTGirl30[/QUOTE]

This.
I can't even believe how tacky that is.