So a "friend" of mine got married this past Saturday and I'm a little frustrated with a few things.
1. I never received a formal invitation but she provided the date and time for the ceremony a few months ago when we saw each other at our marriage preparation classes. (We got married at the same church a month ago). She told me she had a VERY tight budget and wouldn't be printing any. I get to the church and saw that a few people had formal ones.
2. she told me the reception would be a quick lunch at her house, so after the pictures at the church, I ask her mom if they were doing off site pictures and what time they'd be home and she looks at me confused and says "oh no, it's not at our house, it's a reception hall down the street"
After I saw/heard this, I just left, I felt as if I wasn't good enough to celebrate with them. She did invite me via FB but I wasn't given the final details. I then felt guilty because I could tell everything was so unorganized, she had sponsors so she had never met her vendors before the wedding, everyone was scrambling and nobody was providing any help at all. I thought I would’ve been able to help but my H declined the reception “invitation”.
I told my H that she was probably upset that I didn’t want to buy her invitations for her so she didn’t send us one. In her family, they are used to having “Sponsors” (padrinos) for everything, e.g. drinks, hall, food, band, photographer, etc.
She and I have been friends for over 17 years so I’m sure I’ll get over it but it’ll take a little more time…..
WWYD?