Thank You Note Vent!!

nattykins

So,

As I'm sitting here, hand-writing personalized thank you notes for every gift we received at our wedding 10 days ago, I'm getting more and more bitter over the fact that we haven't received a thank you card for any of the 8 weddings we have been to in the past 3 years!!!

Seriously, anyone who is thinking about skipping thank you notes because they aren't noticed, they are!

ThankfulSnail

Yep. I felt pretty bitter writing a thank you note to someone who never wrote me one. But you can't control other people, and can only do the write thing by writing yours. Kudos to you for getting started on them seemingly right away after your wedding.

misssunshine17

At least no one will say that about you I'm the same way, though. I was pissed writing a graduation thank you note for someone when they didn't send me a thank you... or even say thank you. 

theelusive1

I agree! A friend of my daughters got her a shirt, she wrote a thank you. the woman was amazed. My kids have written thank you notes for everything their whole lives. I can't imagine not properly thanking someone. We have been to events that people apparently forgot to write the thank you notes for.  I have always said thank you notes go out within one week of the gift giving.

LoveyHowl

One bride, years ago, did not send me a thank-you note for the wedding gift that I'd traveled all over hell's half-acre to find. When visiting their home months later, I even commented on it -- "oh, you DID get the gift after all. I was a little concerned, especially since that one's been discontinued and I know it was the one you really wanted." No response from her.

I got the last laugh, though. I stole her husband.

mrskristinyc

Thank you notes really only take a few minutes to write, and they mean so much.

A few weeks ago, my FFIL and his GF came to visit us in NYC for a full week, and I had a few days off so I had to play tour guide for the ENTIRE week (yeah, carting two 67 year olds through Times Square....) The GF sent me a really lovely thank you note when they got back, and it was really nice. 

mrskristinyc

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[QUOTE] I got the last laugh, though. I stole her husband.
Posted by LoveyHowl[/QUOTE]

<div>Score! </div><div>
</div><div>Of all the weddings I've been to of my friends the last few years, the people who did not write thank you notes are all divorced or separated. I'm sure there's no correlation, but hmm...</div>

hoffse

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[QUOTE]So, As I'm sitting here, hand-writing personalized thank you notes for every gift we received at our wedding 10 days ago, I'm getting more and more bitter over the fact that we haven't received a thank you card for any of the <strong>8 weddings</strong> we have been to in the past 3 years!!! Seriously, anyone who is thinking about skipping thank you notes because they aren't noticed, they are!
Posted by nattykins[/QUOTE]

<div>Thats ridiculous - I can see it happening at one or two but 8?  that's crazy to me.  Just be the bigger person, OP.</div><div>
</div><div>Honestly sometimes we get brides on here who are asking how to write thank yous - and it's like, is this your first attempt?  My mother made me start writing thank yous in kindergarten.  And even though they were blocky and ineloquent, she sent them anyway (along with her own thanks on my behalf in her own note).  They take virtually no time, and they are one of those things that are very nice to receive.</div>

ericaandtom2012

It annoys me to no end when I don't receive a thank you note.  I always make a point to send a note within a few days of receiving a gift.  It takes 30 seconds to write but the recipient appreciates it. 

FI and I went to a wedding last summer that was a 5 hour drive for us and in a resort town; we had to drop $600 to spend two nights (minimum) on top of the wedding present.  I very much enjoyed the wedding and the mini-vacation but I was seriously irked when I didn't receive a thank you note after I had spent a lot of time and money getting there.

BubbsNBubbs

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Thank You Note Vent!! : Score!  Of all the weddings I've been to of my friends the last few years, the people who did not write thank you notes are all divorced or separated. I'm sure there's no correlation, but hmm...
Posted by mrskristinyc[/QUOTE]

Sorry but I fail to see how stealing someone else's husband is a "score".  But then again I think that being a husband stealer is pretty crappy.

arendiva

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[QUOTE]I got the last laugh, though. I stole her husband.
Posted by LoveyHowl[/QUOTE]


This is a joke right? Because on first read I was like haha that's a funny joke. But subsequent posts make me wonder if this was serious. If it's not a joke than that is seriously messed up.

[Deleted User]

Thank you's seem to be a thing of the past. Parents don't seem to think that sending thank you's is a part of teaching their kids manners anymore. I have nieces who haven't thanked me for gifts in years. So I still send them cards to acknowledge things like birthdays & special events, there just arent' any gifts included. Thank you's are still very important today, even if by email. it shows that you took the time to acknowledge what someone did for you which probably took them time too. I'm not saying emails should replace a wedding thank you card, but in some instances an email thank you is better then no thank you at all.

Ali092011

I got a generic thank you card saying, "Thank you for coming to the wedding and for the gift. We appreciate your friendship" over a YEAR after a wedding. My first anniversary card to the couple and their thank you card could have crossed in the mail. Alas, they couldn't be bothered to look up our new address so the couple had the groom's mother hand the card to me at work. They didn't even buy a stamp.

I honestly would have rather not received a thank you note in that case. That one felt like an insult.

nattykins

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[QUOTE]In Response to Thank You Note Vent!! : Thats ridiculous - I can see it happening at one or two but 8?  that's crazy to me.  [/QUOTE]
 
I know, right? I called my mom this morning to ask if she received them from my cousins who have got married lately, thinking maybe people just don't write them around here or something... But she had from all weddings she had gone to!

I guess it's just my friends :P

shannyb41

I received the most generic thank you card for a wedding I attended in June.  It was a pre-printed card with a couple pictures of them from the wedding and a "thanks for coming" type thing.  I was a bit turned off by the whole thing.  I guess I should be happy to have even received a thank you lol.  But I just thought it was very blah.  Especially since the bride took off the entire month of July...she had time to write out thank yous.  lol. 

At least we got one though...

Peledreamsofrain

Oh man, thank you for posting this.  Every wedding gift I've given has been either ignored, or I've gotten a very generic thank you card for.

Seriously?  So incredibly not ok.

Every single gift I've gotten so far has gotten a sincere hand-written response to it.  Within hours if not days.  My life would be so empty without the generosity and love of others, there's no way I could ignore that.

BostonGIrl4732

I was raised to write thank you cards for EVERYTHING.  I hate doing them but I understand why it's the right thing to do.  I recently gave a large gift for a 60th birthday and never received a thank you card for it.  I don't think it's a generational thing, more like a manners thing.