About 2 months before my wedding, an old friend from middle/high school contacted me about helping me plan my wedding. She said she had some experience with event planning (and supposedly had taken classes to be a coordinator), and was willing to help me for free and to gain more experience. At first I was apprehensive, but being on a tight budget and thinking she knew what she was doing, I went with it.
My mom was only willing to have her help with a few things due to her past experiences with my friend (mom's a caterer and my friend had helped her with a few events, including my bridal shower. She felt that my friend was somewhat helpful but not assertive). FI had a feeling that this friend was not going to be all that she said, but I gave her the benefit of the doubt. Should have listened to him!
She was supposed to set up the cocktail hour snacks and drinks, guest book table, 6 special reserved tables, put alcoholic drink menus on every table and help our bartender if he was low on ice or liquor. From what I've heard, it sounds like she didn't do almost any of those things:
1. According to my mom, the nuts and candy containers were just opened and left out with no bags or anything to eat or serve out of.
2. Guest book table was not where I wanted it. The large photo & frame for our guests to sign was blank (and I gave her pens especially for that)
3. While it appeared she did put out the placecards for the 6 reserved tables, some were placed on the wrong tables (both parents' tables were far away from us when they were supposed to be close by our head table).
4. FI's brother was the one to tell me that the bartender needed more liquor to keep serving our guests; I never saw my friend check if the bartender needed anything.
Since she dropped the ball on things, other issues happened and our reception was not very smooth. She disappeared without telling us because my mom yelled at her for screwing up; I didn't notice right away, but my bro's gf said she left pretty early. I found out by text the next day about that, which was when FI/H explained that friend came up to him crying because of what my mom said and complaining of other things (dinner being served late, etc.). At that point, FI/H took over and was telling the DJ when to announce things so that we could open up the dancefloor. He didn't tell me then because he didn't want to upset me, but he didn't get to enjoy the reception as much in order to make sure things were taken care of.
So now that we're back from our lovely honeymoon, I find her posting a bunch of pictures from our wedding and she said "Pics from a wedding I coordinated". No email, call or text asking permission or even that she has a disc of the pictures for us. Just promoting her business with pics of things she had absolutely nothing to do with. I am super-pissed at her for all this, and I'm not sure what to do. I don't know if there's a point of staying friends with her. Any advice?