thank you cards

lily_721

My cousin's wedding was two months ago.  Shower was three months ago.  No thank you cards.  I will seriously never send this girl another gift again if she doesn't send the thank you cards out.

Summer2011Bride

I've gone to a few weddings where we never got TY notes, and a couple where it took 6+ months to get them. The shower, she definitely should have sent them out prior to the wedding. I can see not having them out two months after the wedding (should she have? probably. But depending on how long of a HM they took, how many guests came, etc., it's possible they are coming out soon).

Loopyseven

The shower one is a rational irritation.  Those should have been out before the wedding.  

The wedding ones - it's pushing the limits on acceptable, but a lot of people these days wait til they get photos back to do a photo card and many photographers take 8-12 weeeks to get photo proofs' back.  Although if you do get one and it's a preprinted photocard with no personal note, you still get to side-eye .  With both eyes if it's a bad photo to boot - haha.

banana468

I'm in the same position. Shower at the beginning of June and wedding at the end of the month. Still no TY for either AND I had to address my TY note at the shower. That said, I think it's a little harsh to say no more presents for those two etiquette blunders. If I used that logic as my gauge for whether someone got any more presents from me then MIL's missteps would have put her on the Do Not Send list before I was married.

DramaGeek

I get where you're coming from, OP.  10 years ago, when H and I were struggling newlyweds, still in college, we sent my aunt, uncle and cousin Christmas gifts.  They never even acknowledged that they received it, let alone said thank you.  I didn't even need a note - a phone call, email or even a message passed through my parents would have been fine.  We know they received the gifts because my grandma and step-grandpa called to thank us and all the gifts were in the same box.  We haven't sent them a gift since.

libby2483

I think that two months is still within a reasonable time for wedding thank you notes.  It is probably pushing it, but if she gets them out soon, I think that is fine.  The shower thank you note is what would really irritate me though.  Those should have been done long before the wedding.

Cortney1982

It's been more than two months when my husband and I attended a wedding, gave a gift off their registry even though our finances were tight that month and still no thank you card.  I'm a bit ticked.  I wish we came empty handed.

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In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_thank-you-cards-6?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:dd3a702d-71ad-4c79-993a-d55438825d42Post:d242780f-edc2-4dd4-bede-632d744665d7">Re: thank you cards</a>:
[QUOTE]It's been more than two months when my husband and I attended a wedding, gave a gift off their registry even though our finances were tight that month and still no thank you card.  I'm a bit ticked.  I wish we came empty handed.
Posted by Cortney1982[/QUOTE]

<div>That's a little harsh. You didn't HAVE to get a gift. You shouldn't have if things were that tight. Don't throw that into the mix.</div>