How to let OOT know about registry?

DaveandRoxy

How do you tell your out of town friends where you are registered at? Or about the guest accomodations or wedding website. I've read time and time again that it's rude to include any of this in the invitations. So I left it out. But now what do I do? Should I send another letter with our registry card in it? Is that rude? Suggestions please!! 

If I do have to mail another letter, how far should I space it from the invite?

Should I put a little personalized note in there? Or do I send it after I recieve their RSVP?

Thanks in advance everyone!!

courtski2004

I usually just google the bride and groom's names to find their registry information if I don't have their wedding website. Word of mouth works well, and if you have those people on facebook or their email addresses, you could (privately) send the website info and advise that accomodation information is there for their reference. Don't mention the registry information being available there, they can find that on their own or they'll ask if they want to know.

DMoore421

I included an insert with my wedding website in my std cards. That site has all of the hotel information as well. I will probably also include it with my invites because the site has tons of info directions , room info , shuttle info from the airport and then after party info Eventually it will have registry info but I am not sending out registry cards. I am giving them to my sister an she will put them in shower invites. If anyone asks I will tell them other than that if they don't ask they don't want to know ...

s-aries8990

Did you send out STD's? normally the website goes on there. If not, then casually contact the OOTs saying that you've blocked some rooms and to visit daveandroxy.com for the rooming info. OR, just include a business card-size insert with the invites that says to visit daveandroxy.com for the info on the accomodations info as well as stuff to do/ travel info. Don't mention registry on that insert. Hopefully, guests will see the registries tab.

You cannot!!!! send out the registry cards as a separate piece; it would be 100x worse to send a separate registry card than to include any of that info on the invites. It sends the message "oops! i forgot to tell you all to buy me stuff, so I'll spend lots of money to remind you that I want presents!) Don't mention the word registry or gift anywhere on the invite or any of the inserts.

Other than that, recruit MOB , MOB and beloved family to spread the info by word of mouth.

jessicabessica

You're right not to mention registry info in the invitations (and you should never send cards just saying where you are registered).  You can include info about accomodations and a general link to your wedding website - just don't specifically say that your registry info is there, let guests find that themselves if they want the info.  

I would print a little card that says something like "for accomodations and additional information, please visit ... ."  You could print business cards yourself or order them from vista print pretty cheaply.  If you have a lot of out of town guests, I think it's also nice to include hotel block info on the card with the invitation so guests have it without going to your website.  

QueerFemme

On our "Directions" card, which we included in the invitation, we put "for additional information, please visit www.weddingwebsite.com. It's ok to include the website on the invitation, just not specific registry information.

Jen4948

Registry information doesn't go in invitations at all in any form.

It is okay to put information about accommodations and a wedding website on inserts that go in invitations, but the only direct information about registries should be given in response to requests made by the guests.  It should not be given out to anyone who hasn't made such a request because that looks gift-grabby.

NYCMercedes

I get asked all the time where my son and FDIL are registered. It's a normal question that guests ask their closest contact to the B and G.

DaveandRoxy

Yea. I sent out the wedding website with the STD's but half of the people didn't even notice. And we're not on Facebook anymore :-/ I guess that leaves us with word of mouth since I've already assembled most of the invites!

s-aries8990

How do you know they didn't see the website? and did you seal the invites? If anyone asks questions, direct them to the website and hopefully they see it!

lovesclimbing

I let my parents and his parents know and they can tell other people if asked.  I think that's the best way.  If they don't know, likely they will get you a gift card which you can always use for something.  And if they don't ask and then get you something you already have or something you will never use, you can always regift it, sell it on ebay, or donate it to Goodwill or the Salvation Army without them knowing.