Guest or No Guest

jrkjpf

I looked through a few pages of posts, and didn't see anything related, so I'm going to ask...
I am trying to go through our guest list, to try and get a rough number for potential cost reasons (chairs covers, food, drinks, etc), I have included almost all spouses, FI's and serious relationship couples, but what do i do with the singles?
A big reason i ask is also because a few of FI's friends don't exactly have a "classy" taste, and will bring any girl they can find off the streets. I was at a wedding this past weekend where this seemed to be the case, and the bride was less than amused that a majority of the "unknown guests" have never heard of undergarments...hmmm...anyways... We are trying to budge for 175 of less, as of right now we are at 150...what is the rule with guests? If they are single, and have been for awhile, do I not include that option on the invite, be nice and allow it, etc?

Habs2Hart

If you have room in your budget to allow +1's for every single person, that is the best thing to do.

It is also acceptable to not include +1's for those who are truly single.  If they are not dating anyone, then you can only include them.  If you have space and someone starts dating someone between the invites and the wedding, it is nice if you can accomodate their SO.

[Deleted User]

I think it's nice to invite people with a guest.
That being said, if you don't have the space or budget, they are truly 100% single and they will know a significant amount of people there...then I think it's ok to not invite them with a date...

NOLAbridealmost

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_guest-guest-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ddc39acd-e87c-4e8e-96f0-ab4e4dc94e94Post:5d04a662-ab33-48b9-8b12-ebb785a0267f">Guest or No Guest</a>:
[QUOTE]I looked through a few pages of posts, and didn't see anything related, so I'm going to ask... I am trying to go through our guest list, to try and get a rough number for potential cost reasons (chairs covers, food, drinks, etc), I have included almost all spouses, FI's and serious relationship couples, but what do i do with the singles? A big reason i ask is also because a few of FI's friends don't exactly have a "classy" taste, and will bring any girl they can find off the streets. I was at a wedding this past weekend where this seemed to be the case, and the bride was less than amused that a majority of the "unknown guests" have never heard of undergarments...hmmm...anyways... We are trying to budge for 175 of less, as of right now we are at 150...what is the rule with guests? If they are single, and have been for awhile, do I not include that option on the invite, be nice and allow it, etc?
Posted by jrkjpf[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>What do you mean by "<em>almost</em> all spouses, FI's and serious relationship couples?"  Did you invite all of them and you're just assuming for your head count that a few of them won't show up?  You have to invite people that are in relationships with their partners, so I was just checking. </div><div>
</div><div>For single guests you don't have to let them bring a guest so if you don't want them to bring someone no biggie.</div>

jrkjpf

"Almost All", as in I have not added a few names of spouses and such since I am unsure of their names. But they are counted for.

Andrea.Matillano

I would say that if you can afford it to invite them! If not, or if you are worried about who they will bring, then I don't think it's wrong not to.

aimers1525

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[QUOTE]I looked through a few pages of posts, and didn't see anything related, so I'm going to ask... I am trying to go through our guest list, to try and get a rough number for potential cost reasons (chairs covers, food, drinks, etc), I have included almost all spouses, FI's and serious relationship couples, but what do i do with the singles? A big reason i ask is also because a few of FI's friends don't exactly have a "classy" taste, and <strong>will bring any girl they can find off the streets. I was at a wedding this past weekend where this seemed to be the case, </strong>and the bride was less than amused that a majority of the "unknown guests" have never heard of undergarments...hmmm...anyways... We are trying to budge for 175 of less, as of right now we are at 150...what is the rule with guests? If they are single, and have been for awhile, do I not include that option on the invite, be nice and allow it, etc?
Posted by jrkjpf[/QUOTE]
I hear you on this; I sure don't want to have to deal with that. However, we invited +1's for our single friends who wouldn't otherwise know anyone at the wedding. For example, a co-worker who is single who does not know any of our friends we invited her w/a plus one.

baystateapple

It is a nice gesture to give any single person a +1 for your wedding, especially people who don't know any of the other guests.  Who knows, they may decline and come alone, but it is still a nice gesture.  And I wouldn't worry about the whole "any person off the streets."  I had a few guests bring random +1s, and I only noticed during our table visits.  You are going to be so busy you are not going to notice random people at your wedding.

Avion22

Considering I met my fiance at a wedding, I'm a big fan of just inviting your single friends as SINGLES.  Try to seat them with people they know, but it doesn't hurt to try to put some of the singles together at the same table.  You never know, they might hit it off, and a year and half from now be planning their own wedding:-)

caseyhaynes429

I am in the same boat... My wedding is also over a year away so I am just guessing with all our single friends and budgeting in that most will have +1s. When we actually send out the invitations I will see who is actually still very single and they wont get a +1. I definitely do not want a bunch of people at my wedding I dont know. And the singles have their crowd of friends so I'm not worried about it being at all awkward for them.

specialk84

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[QUOTE]In Response to Guest or No Guest : I hear you on this; I sure don't want to have to deal with that. However, we invited +1's for our single friends who wouldn't otherwise know anyone at the wedding. For example, a co-worker who is single who does not know any of our friends we invited her w/a plus one.
Posted by aimers1525[/QUOTE]

<div>This.  Also, if someone is traveling a considerable distance to your wedding, it's nice to offer them a +1.  </div><div>
</div><div>If someone is truly single, local and knows other people at the wedding, don't worry about it.</div>

KateG528

I would include +1s for people in serious relationships on the RSVP however if you dont want people who are single to bring a guest then on their RSVP card (and all your RSVP cards for that matter) put the number of people expected in their party 

ex: Single person- 1; Serious relationship person-2; etc. 

AbbeyS2011

I put "and Guest" on my invites for the singles on our list simply because I know we have the room, and alot of them are traveling to be here. 

I agree with PPs - if you have the room it is a nice gesture.  Not everyone will necessarily bring a date.  I have tagged along to many a wedding at the last minute with a good friend when they did not want to go alone and had a plus one invite.  Meet some great guys that way too. 

elizabethjane25

if you can afford to have your guests bring guests, it is really polite to do so. however, if you cannot (like me), it is polite to allow your friends/family in relationships to bring their significant others. for those who are completely single, it is acceptable (in my opinion) to invite them by themselves. however, if some people do not come and you have the space, it would be nice to contact those without plus 1s and offer them the option.

teacup0618

Inviting singles with a guest is best, if its in your budget, But I think it should be all or nothing. Dont invite some singles with a guest, and some without. Definitely invite all spouses, engaged couples, and anyone in a serious relationship with their SO. We are inviting everyone with a plus 1, knowing that half of them will be coming solo.