My fiance and I decided to have a small ceremony without a reception. Anyone that comes is welcome to come to dinner with us but we are not paying. My mother and I have alot of drama and stopped talking for awile, and I have never met my father though I have rconnected with him and talk frequently with him. Both are under the assumption we are having just th two of us however when my fiance told me he wouldnt mind a few guests (family only) I told the person I really think of as my parent right away. My ex stepdad who is divorced from my mom but raised me since I was 3. He already booked flights for his fiance who I am very close with, his sister and of course himself, I was going to inform my mother we would be having guests at ceremony only but then found out my future Mother in Law and Father in Law wont be attending as they will have our children with them and plan on taking my oldest to a live showing of his favourite tv show the day after and aren't sure if they will be back in time from the wedding (it is a 4 hour drive away) to go. So far the three guests mentioned are the only guests and because my mother will create drama with them I dont feel comfortabl having her there. My father I would love to invite if I had atleast met him once. Any idea what I can do to either make not being invited less hurtful to them? or is it even possible to hide the fact we are having guests?