Anyone have an issue like this?

cococabanagrl

I have a Bm who son is going to be our ring bearer. The BM is my future SIL. She asked my FI if it was ok if he just wore a suit and not a tux..... My FI just said it wasn't his decision. Bless him!

I thought it was my decision? The BM dresses arent picked out yet do to the fact that I am in my last semester of school and it can wait til the end of May. When the dresses are picked out, then I can decide what the guys are wearing then...

Thoughts?

thesuninherhead

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[QUOTE]I have a Bm who son is going to be our ring bearer. The BM is my future SIL. She asked my FI if it was ok if he just wore a suit and not a tux..... My FI just said it wasn't his decision. Bless him! I thought it was my decision? The BM dresses arent picked out yet do to the fact that I am in my last semester of school and it can wait til the end of May. When the dresses are picked out, then I can decide what the guys are wearing then... Thoughts?
<p>Posted by cococabanagrl[/QUOTE]</p><p> </p><p>Normally the groom decides the attire of the men in the party... I'm not sure if this extends to the ring bearer, but I wouldn't find it that bizarre that your BM would presume it did.</p>

danieliza1127

You should take the parent's wishes into consideration for a ringbearer or flowergirl, in my opinion.  Maybe she doesn't have $100 to rent a child's tux but he already has a suit and so she was just hoping he could wear that. 

aggiebug

so the BM had him dressed up more than you had pictured? 

If so tell her your thoughts for the RB attire and see what she says. 

Pirata13

If we were having a ring bearer, I think I'd prefer a suit...I really have a strong dislike of RBs and FGs looking like mini-grooms and mini-brides.  The suit could possibly be used for other events as a PP said, and I think little suits are cute.

whitneykaye87

I think pants and a shirt would be fine.  Little kids always look cute, and I honestly think it always looks funny to have a little boy dressed up in a tux.

cococabanagrl

Thanks everyone!
To be honest, I havent given it a thought other than the shirt and pants til the FI mentioned it. I dont want him to be a mini me walking down the aisle though, either. Its going to be more of a formal wedding and I guess, I have to see the suit. The FI is leaving a lot of the stuff too me, which is fine but then, I feel like she should have asked me.

janedoe1113a

It's your FI's wedding too, so it's perfectly fine that she asked him.  You're not the only one who should make decisions on this wedding.

cococabanagrl

I agree with you navy 100%. He is actually helping out a lot, just leaving somethings up too me. With school over in a week and externship starting next week, Ill be able to have more time and more focus.