My father died when I was 14 (so 7 years ago) and my fiances parents have been divorced for 3 years. My fiance and I just got engaged 12/11 and are planning for a wedding hopefully sometime in the fall of 2013. My mom has a well paying job but not in the best financial shape to pay for everything that is expected of the bride's family. My father inlaw to-be makes good money (he always makes a point of it) and my mother-in-law to be is in similar shape as my mother. I know that budget talk is a touchy subject and we are trying to keep costs as low as we can for the type of wedding we want. I am just unsure as to how to approach this topic because while we are keeping the guest list divided by sides so no side invites more than the other, I feel it is unfair for my mom to have to pay for what is typically paid for by the brides family and I am unsure if my fiance's parents will agree or even understand my opinion. Opinions please??
Something important I forgot to add is that my FMIL asked that I got a list of what the groom's family traditionally pays for so she knew what to give us for the wedding and my mom and I have always had an understanding that she would give a substantial amount of money for our wedding because she didn't want me to have to pay for my wedding the way she had to. Therefore, I've always been under the assumption that I would have to pay for little of my wedding especially since I'm finishing school. I know what they say about assuming but I suppose this is the way I had been raised.