Good evening everyone! I just needed to vent about a current situation that is driving me cuckoo bananas.
FI's parents are really wonderful people, and they care about him very much. But when it comes to weddings, they are very tit for tat. If someone invites them to their wedding, FILs say they need to be invited to ours (which is fine, I gave them carte blanche with their portion of the guest list) and if they weren't invited to so and so's wedding, they don't get an invite. This I have a bit more trouble with. I personally believe that you should invite who you want to share your day with you, regardless of whether or not they have invited you to their wedding. Most people have a good reason for not inviting someone, and there are always special circumstances.
So now here is where the real annoyance comes in. FI's sister got married a couple months ago, and there were some family members and friends that did not attend. FILs were very insulted by this, stating how they had attended all of these people's events, etc. So now they want us not to invite said people. FI could honestly care less if some of these people attend the wedding, as he really isn't close with most of his extended family.
The issue is, we have already sent out save the dates. As I have posted a few times, and have lurked many times, on this board, I know that this is a big no no. So of course I told him that I would not rescind the invitations. He agreed with me, and just didn't mention it to his parents. Well his parents received their invite today, and called all angry that we didn't discuss who would "make the cut" before sending out our invites. I'm proud that FI and I did the right thing, but it's frustrating because now they are being very cold and short with FI.
I'm not getting involved, but I know FIs upset, and it just really bothers me that they are treating him like this. /endrant.