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Can I cut back their guest list?

Not sure where I should have posted this but here it is:

I am panicking about our guest list. A few months ago my fiance's family said they were inviting 50 (25 + guest) people. We set our budget and my parents are paying for everything. Now all of the sudden their guest list is almost 200! I feel like they weren't for a big wedding because they didn't have the money but since my parents are paying for it, they're taking advantage. Can I tell them they need to cut back their list? I feel as if I have to explain etiquette to them for every aspect of this wedding. What would you do?

Re: Can I cut back their guest list?

  • I would tell them space requirements restrict the guest list. That's a less argumentative way of telling them to stop being greedy! If they refuse, tell them your parents are paying for X number of guests, and if they MUST have this many people, they can pay for the rest.
  • Yes, you have every right to give them a limit for your wedding. This is you and your future husband's day, not a family reunion. I went through the same thing where people I have never met and would never see again was on the in laws guest list just because they were "family". Do it kindly but make sure that it is understood. If it is that important to them then give the option that it is your parents that are footing the bill and that they could pay for each additional person.
  • I agree with the comment of " tell them they can pay for the extra guests". It's nice to let them feel like your In Law's have the option, granted that option isnt within their means, its something they should be able to feel like they have should they want to utilize it instead of just a flat out no. 

    If you tell them the budget is 50 guests, any beyond that is out of budget but can be covered if they pay for it. 
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