I am beginning to get quotes and selecting vendors, DJ and Caterer etc, I am a pretty consistent tipper so I have been adding my standard tip percentage into the final cost to get a better budget idea. My FMIL said that if the vendor owns/operates their own business you do not tip, like the DJ, who is a one man show. However, if they are an employee of the vendor (like a bartender employed by the catering company) you dotip them. This makes sense as I would assume that the employee would just get their hourly wage (or whatever) and the owner/operator would get the entire payment. BUT, is it good etiquette or appropriate, I hate to think that I was stiffing someone or that the vendor thought I didn’t appreciate their hard work.