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Two Moms Are Paying...How Does The Invitation Go?

This might not be an issue. Meaning, we're VERY far out from our wedding. At this point, the people who have mentioned wanting to help us are our moms (and we are VERY grateful--otherwise we wouldn't be able to have as big of an event). I don't expect anyone else to help, but, who knows? So, this is why it's just an "I wonder..." at this point, but I'm bored, so...ya know, I wonder...

How will we word our invites?

Mrs. Mom Caine and Mrs. FI Lastname
request the honor of your presense at the marriage of their children:

Miss. Stacey Caine and Mr. FI Lastname?

Etc., etc?

For what it's worth, I DO feel like I should honor these two women on the invite, but they've both said they don't care, and just to skip that and say "together with our families" or leave it off entirely, so, I guess "Stacey Caine and FI Lastname request the honor of your presense...?"

I don't know. Something doesn't feel right about that, because these two women are amazing, and they have been so helpful through our entire lives (not a whole lot of support from our dads, is what I'm getting at, and not just in the wedding--our whole lives). I feel like we should let people know that these are the people who made it possible.

Of course, if even one more person steps up and helps, we're going the "families of" or leaving it off route, because I think more than two people gets a little lengthy.
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Re: Two Moms Are Paying...How Does The Invitation Go?

  • Exactly what CMG said.
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  • Does "hosting" mean something other than paying? I thought that's what hosting meant, so that's why I said the moms were contributing, plus us. But, if anyone else offers to help, that's why we'll probably skip it, because then it will be like 8 people on the invite, and that gets a little nuts.
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_two-moms-payinghow-invitation?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:e16a8e0a-9a49-4c00-b200-dcd21fed97ddPost:0620c07f-3db6-428c-829f-a7320b455dc6">Re: Two Moms Are Paying...How Does The Invitation Go?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Does "hosting" mean something other than paying? I thought that's what hosting meant, so that's why I said the moms were contributing, plus us. But, if anyone else offers to help, that's why we'll probably skip it, because then it will be like 8 people on the invite, and that gets a little nuts.
    Posted by staceycaine[/QUOTE]

    Hosting goes hand in hand with paying. But hosting means they are the host (in charge and receives the guests). They are hosting the event for the guests.

    Think of it like a normal dinner party. How there is a host at dinner parties too.

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Two Moms Are Paying...How Does The Invitation Go? : Hosting goes hand in hand with paying. But hosting means they are the host (in charge and receives the guests). They are hosting the event for the guests. Think of it like a normal dinner party. How there is a host at dinner parties too.
    Posted by redheadfsu[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>Hmm. Well, then I guess it's just my mom. FI's mom is paying for some of the deposits for flowers, DJ, etc, but my mom is paying for the majority of the reception.

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  • ditto redhead.  Paying does go hand in hand with hosting, but it's not an exclusive 1:1 relationship. 

    If your mom says "Stacey, I really want to help with your wedding, here's a check for $5,000, have fun" and other than that she acts 100% like any other guest then she's not really hosting.  Likewise, even if she didn't pay for anything, but was coordinating things and acting as a host at the reception (greeting your family and guests, etc.) then she's a host, even though she didn't pay, KWIM?
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