Overheard at Starbucks

ExpatPumpkin

I was meeting with a client at Starbucks when I couldn't help but overhear a woman discussing her wedding with her DJ.  They were planning the intros, dances, etc.

She tells him, "We're having a cash bar, but our close friends and the bridal party can drink for free.  We'll be picking up their bar tab.  Everyone else will have to pay for their drinks...  Would you please announce this after the intros?"

No, I didn't say anything to her, but I wanted to

janedoe1113a

Oh gosh.  It's bad enough that she's doing it, but announcing it as well?!?  Geez.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

I'd be making a bee line for any wedding party member I even kinda-sorta knew and giving them my drink order after that!

I mean, it is one thing to do it, but to not even be embarassed about it, or think it is a good idea to keep it a secret?

PoopyPants23

Yuck.  WHy would anyone announce to their guests, "Oh, we have other guests that we're treating better than you!"

ExpatPumpkin

Exactly what all of you said. 

Plus, this is further proof that vendors will validate any bad idea a bride has...  I'm sure the DJ knew this was wrong, but he wasn't going to rock the boat

katiewhompus

Everybody needs a paycheck!

I once went to a conference where older members (join date, not age wise) received free drinks while the rest paid. Guess who became my best friends

btrflykate1230

She obviously doesn't visit this board or she would be ripped a new one.

quotequeen

How the heck is the DJ supposed to announce that wedding party members and close friends get to drink for free?  Is he going to say by name who the "close friends" are???

squirrly

I'm assuming she meant for him to just announce that it was a cash bar.  Likely, the WP and "close friends" have a password or some such for the bartender.

topchef33

That's pretty crappy. I don't care for cash bars, but if that's the way she's going she should give her friends' $ beforehand to buy drinks instead of announcing it to all the guests that only a select few will be getting free drinks. I would be tempted to leave.

Unless, like squirrly said, the 'VIP' have a password. Don't you think people might notice that they aren't paying though?

MCarmine

Oh man. I don't know if I would have been able to bite my tounge.

aallenba

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[QUOTE]I'd be making a bee line for any wedding party member I even kinda-sorta knew and giving them my drink order after that! Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]

Ditto. Yes the maid of honor needs 5 drinks at one time, do not question it.

vgmartinez

I'd hate to be her DJ.

Shawnee11507

DJ- "I have an announcement to make: Wedding party, Bob, Jane, Mary- you get to drink for free. Everyone else- you're on your own- hope you brought cash! Now, let's get this party started!"

Love to see the look on all the other guests faces. That's so rude, and especially to make it public knowledge!

cukimerrydoll

I would just go to the bar and say "It's for the bride."

Wow... I just made a How I Met Your Mother reference... my sister would be proud.

pirategal03

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[QUOTE]I would just go to the bar and say "It's for the bride."
Posted by cukimerrydoll[/QUOTE]


Confession: I've done this.

banana468

I was DH's date when they did this.  And he was a GM.

So I was the GF at the time paying for my Diet Coke and he had booze for free.

Yeah - thankfully I was only a date at the time.  People at our table were p!ssed.