Need a good way to say "you're not invited"

manditxg

Maybe I just need to suck it up and get the conversation over with but I am trying to be diplomatic and can't think of a way to word this. How do I tell my mom's mom (yes my "grandmother" that I have no contact with in the past seven years) that she's not invited? One of my aunts keeps sending my Facebook messages basically letting me know she is waiting on her invite. My mom does not want her at the wedding because many times over the decades my mom tried to reconcile with her and the grandmother(her mom) again treats her like crap. I obviously want my mom there more than her but I don't want to start a family feud between the relatives that want her there and the ones that don't. Or at the very least to let her know why without sounding mean or spiteful. I wouldn't care if she were there in any other situation but having her in the same space as my mom would be a nightmare and I don't want to put my mom, my guests, or myself through that situation

baird32

Thats a good question. I am inviting mine even though she hasn't been part of my life but there are people demanding their invites.. ummm..

kmmssg

Agree with Milkduds.  Also, families will start this "If you don't invite g'ma, we aren't coming" crap.  If you get that, you don't cave, you just say, "You will be missed."  I don't know a lot of the details but if your mom doesn't want her there and you are ok with that then don't play into any games people may want to play.

manditxg

Thanks. Very helpful advice