KPS

crfische

1) I think if there are any knotties I've met IRL, I would totally know they were gone.

2) Is that a sixteen candles reference? AND ARE THEY MAD THAT SOMEONE IS IN THEIR HEAD?

3) Huh. I totally feel bad when my friends are having a hard time. I don't wanna judge the secret, but I'm human and I'm kinda judging the secret.

MRSBJS

How often is KPS updated? I read it alot but I can't figure out a pattern...

hlq2011

Grr, I hate not being able to access KPS at work.

LDYGTR13

I've never met any knotties IRL, but I do kinda wonder (when I get all sad and mopey) if you guys would even care if I wasn't around...and I'm sure SOME of you would cry your eyes out for YEARS if I never came back. YEARS.

I'm also trying not to judge, but am, in fact, judging the person who doesn't care that her friends are having a rough time. Perhaps she's got a really good reason - or shes one of those "If I let your problems become my problems it's going to make me sad" type of things? Either way - I'm trying my hardest.

FutureMrsFezz

:nodding:  All of that, Fishy.

LDYGTR13

Bl0wjobs - it's whenever Arbs gets an e-mail, I think.

Beachy730

Man I just checked KPS and was wondering why nobody said anything about it yet, and then clicked back to here, and BAM Fishy had.

I think that's sad that someone who has been posting for a year and met people don't think we would notice if they were gone.  

LadyArkham

I don't think I agree that adoption is exactly the same as having your own kids. I think adoption is a wonderful thing, and it's something I want to explore. However, I love my FI, and I am really looking forward to interacting with kids who share his characteristics.

I think you can be just as happy or happier with adopted children as with your own - but I don't think that wanting to have your own kids is necessarily narcissistic! 

I've never really been a noticeable part of an online forum community. I post, but I've never made "connections" online like that. It always confuses me a little when people post to KPS about feeling like nobody notices them...

arbolita

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kps-10?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:e2aac9e3-ed81-4ce4-ae36-db523a960089Post:9bac1b40-8e2e-4909-a5ef-7ea436a2b047">Re: KPS</a>:
[QUOTE]How often is KPS updated? I read it alot but I can't figure out a pattern...
Posted by MRSBJS[/QUOTE]


Yeah, there is no pattern.  It gets updated when there are submissions, and when there's time to do it.

MRSBJS

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kps-10?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:e2aac9e3-ed81-4ce4-ae36-db523a960089Post:d19e56da-fc0a-4152-81e7-5e9aff490614">Re: KPS</a>:
[QUOTE]Bl0wjobs - it's whenever Arbs gets an e-mail, I think.
Posted by LDYGTR13[/QUOTE]

Bl0wjobs?   Definitely most-creative use of my SN.

And thank you :)

kcscejal

I'm judging that one a little too.  I feel bad and sympathize with my friends when they're having a tough time.  I can feel good/happy/proud about my own life and still feel bad for whatever they're going through.  I don't feel guilty for the good things in my life, but it is possible to feel opposite emotions for totally different things at the same time.

waltzingmatilda13

I can totally get how people would feel like it wouldn't be noticed if they stopped posting. I feel like that every few days and then some days I really think people would notice. I think it's just the ebb and flow of the board.

And I am also judging the person who doesn't care about their friends. That's really harsh. They need to think about how they would feel if their friends felt the same way about them.

*Edited for clarification.

missy68

Is the guy a specific person (actor/singer/etc.) in the picture? It is a 16 candles thing, but I'm guessing it's like a crush and she wants him out of her head.

The others -- I get  being happy and grateful things are going well, but you can also have empathy for others. Adoption isn't an easy road. Certainly if I've met you in real life, I will notice you're gone.

RobotLegs

I know that one of the knotties I've met IRL is never around.

Bad Sascha!  She needs to come around more, that chick is awesome.

LDYGTR13

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: KPS : Bl0wjobs?   Definitely most-creative use of my SN. And thank you :)
Posted by MRSBJS[/QUOTE]

I've wanted to say that for a while - however, I never knew the answer to anything you've asked - now I do and I have. THanks for letting me do that just this once. I'll never call you Bl0wjobs again...promise.









okay, so I have my fingers crossed. If you come across me when I've had some alcoholic beverages, I might call you Bl0wjobs again.

kcscejal

Also, I don't agree with the adoption one.  It is not an easy process.  I am open to adopting children, and I think it's a wonderful thing to do, but it's not ideal for everyone.  Not everyone is even able to adopt even if they really want to.

MRSBJS

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: KPS : I've wanted to say that for a while - however, I never knew the answer to anything you've asked - now I do and I have. THanks for letting me do that just this once. I'll never call you Bl0wjobs again...promise. okay, so I have my fingers crossed. If you come across me when I've had some alcoholic beverages, I might call you Bl0wjobs again.
Posted by LDYGTR13[/QUOTE]

You can call me Bl0wjobs anytime .... My mind dwells in the gutter, so if it were someone else, I would totally want to call them that! 

And also, I like KUI - so if I see you on at night you'll know I'm tipsy too.

RobotLegs

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[QUOTE]Also, I don't agree with the adoption one.  It is not an easy process.  I am open to adopting children, and I think it's a wonderful thing to do, but it's not ideal for everyone.  Not everyone is even able to adopt even if they really want to.
Posted by kcscejal[/QUOTE]

Not to mention that adoption can cost upwards of $20k.  That's pretty prohibitive for the average person.

missy68

I disagree with them not feeling like family. Those boys couldn't be any less my nephews. Their blood is different than mine/ours - so what. But I love them the same fierce amount and I'm proud of them, and I know their parents feel the same (and more) as well as their grandparents. Grandparents' house is a testimony to that.
Andy got his flu sniff (up his nose), and dad said lets call mommy and tell her how good you did. He said, "No. I want to call Emmie." That's MY nephew. That kid doesn't belong to any other family.

kimheartsscott

I judge the adoption one a bit.  Even if you can adopt, it's still a shitty situation.  I wouldn't say, "what, you can't just get a new dog?" to someone whose childhood dog just died.

Ok, that was a horrible analogy but maybe people see where I'm going here.

ahhhitsshannyn

Actually, I kind of agree with the adoption one. Blood is not a binder to determine who your "real" family is. I don't know most of my blood family (just because they live in another country) but I do not really care either way. My best friends are my family and the couple that grew up across the street from us are my grandparents. I would not trade it for anything.

I hate that 1-upping one. I hate people like that, and I know a few. It is so annoying.

I totally judge that one about the friends. I am happy in my life and we are in a good place, but I have 2 friends going through a divorce and 2 others with huge financial problems, and they definitely get my empathy. When I with them, I never think of how lucky I am, that shiit is fuucked up.

mandysmear

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[QUOTE]I know that one of the knotties I've met IRL is never around. Bad Sascha!  She needs to come around more, that chick is awesome.
Posted by RobotLegs[/QUOTE]

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mandysmear

GOD GATOR LADY YOU'RE SUCH A FRICKEN GUTTERMIND!

kcscejal

I don't think blood determines who your family is and I hope no one feels like their adopted child is less "theirs" but that doesn't make it the right choice or even a possible choice for everyone having trouble conceiving naturally.

kimheartsscott

Oh, I agree adoption should be an option and blood relation shouldn't be the end all be all, but I think it's pretty ballsy to say "oh, that's so odd! Your doctor told you you can't adopt?" to somebody who just shared something they probably consider fairly personal.  I wouldn't fault someone for saying, "are you considering adoption?"

Birdie1483

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[QUOTE]Oh, I agree adoption should be an option and blood relation shouldn't be the end all be all, but I think it's pretty ballsy to say "oh, that's so odd! Your doctor told you you can't adopt?" to somebody who just shared something they probably consider fairly personal.  I wouldn't fault someone for saying, "are you considering adoption?"
Posted by kimheartsscott[/QUOTE]

This is how I feel. Birthday twin!

LDYGTR13

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[QUOTE]GOD GATOR LADY YOU'RE SUCH A FRICKEN GUTTERMIND!
Posted by mandysmear[/QUOTE]

I see what you're saying kind of...but all I'm reading is "Bl0wjobs, handjobs and sexytime" - I guess my mind really IS in the gutter.

kimheartsscott

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: KPS : This is how I feel. Birthday twin!
Posted by Birdie1483[/QUOTE]

<div>We should get matching rings that we can push together.</div>

Birdie1483

Yes!

It's still weird to me when I meet people with the same birthday as me. I just never knew many people with November birthdays growing up.

ahhhitsshannyn

Yeah, I do not think that anyone who cannot have babies should adopt or have to consider adoption, but I just agree with the part that says shared DNA does not make a family. I know people who have great family lives and parents who love them so much and they still want to find their "real" parents. That is the part that irks me.

But yeah that first part is pretty ballsy to say, but I think I get where she is going with that. Like you need to have a baby with your husband so you get a mini-husband, that is pretty stupid and they are not thinking correctly.

missy68

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[QUOTE]I don't think blood determines who your family is and I hope no one feel like their adopted child is less "theirs" but that doesn't make it the right choice or even a possible choice for everyone having trouble conceiving naturally.
Posted by kcscejal[/QUOTE]

I agree with you - my point was that the adopted boys in my family ARE my family. It IS incredibly cost prohibitive, an emotional rollercoaster, incredibly stressful, and might not end the way  you want it - just like anything else. At the same time, those children ARE your children/family (my earlier response was more towards a post, not the KPS).