I invited a girl to be a BM out of a childhood promise that I have long outgrown. She has been a horrible friend to me, and in the last month has solidified her need to pull me down and become a casualty of her selfishness. I have been engaged for 4 months and she doesn't know how my Fiancé proposed. With all the wedding planning the only thing she has asked about is what she is wearing and what her hair will look like. When I told her I was engaged she started crying about how "jealous she was and couldn't understand how I was getting married before her."
How do I get out of this? My last encounter with her I ended our friendship, but she was wasted and crying so I doubt she remembers. I am terrified my wedding day will become another outlet for her need to drink herself idiotic and yet another venue for a meltdown about herself.
I simply cannot spend my wedding day babysitting and picking up the pieces of someone who is barely in my life anymore.
I know that unbridesmaiding people is an awful thing to do...but is my own sanity worth the politics of keeping someone on board who is not there for me?