Hotel Rooms

heyybanessa

We have blocked rooms at an afforable hotel for our guests and they will be responsible for paying their way if they decide to stay at the hotel we picked out.

My question is....do I pay for my bridesmaid's rooms? The first night I will be staying with them so am I responsible for paying for our room AND my husband/groomsman's room? On the second night I am staying with my huaband.....obviously we will pay for our room but should I also pay for my bridesmaids room as well??

The hotel is pretty affordable at $109-145 a night but that can add up! Help!

AdeleDazeem

Are you requiring all the bridesmaids and groomsmen to stay there?  Are all the bridesmaids staying in one room (that's what it sounds like from one of your sentences).

In short, no... you don't have to pay for them.  But if you are making it mandatory or insisting that they split the cost of the room while you're there, then you should help pay (in my opinion).

KellyBrian2013

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[QUOTE]We have blocked rooms at an afforable hotel for our guests and they will be responsible for paying their way if they decide to stay at the hotel we picked out. My question is....do I pay for my bridesmaid's rooms? The first night I will be staying with them so am I responsible for paying for our room AND my husband/groomsman's room? On the second night I am staying with my huaband.....obviously we will pay for our room but should I also pay for my bridesmaids room as well?? The hotel is pretty affordable at $109-145 a night but that can add up! Help!
Posted by heyybanessa[/QUOTE]

I think you absolutely should split the cost of the room that you are staying in (in addition to paying for your FI's room). If you aren't requiring your BMs to stay there, then no, you don't have to pay for it for the second night.

That said, we paid for my BMs room for both the night before the wedding (I stayed with them) and the night of the wedding, in addition to the hotel room H and I shared on the wedding night. They had already shelled out a lot of money on attire and travel expenses, so I thought it was a nice way to help out.


And FWIW, I don't find $100-$150 a night to be "affordable" - that's expensive to me. $65 or $70 a night is affordable for me.

RebeccaB88

I think that if you're making it mandatory that they stay at the hotel, then you need to pay for the rooms, regardless if you're staying with them or not.  If they're free to stay elsewhere, then you don't.  But if you can swing it, it's a nice thing to do for them.

ETA: Anything over $100 a night is NOT affordable to me.  Did you ask them beforehand what their budget would be for a room, or did you just assume this amount would be ok?  Or are they under the impression that you are covering the rooms for them? You don't want them to have any surprises when they check in.

OliveOilsMom

For my friends wedding, we all stayed in her room for the evening and the next night we all had our own rooms, which we paid for.  The same thing happened with the GM, they stayed with the groom and then did their own thing the next night.  There really is no right and wrong answer to this question.  But it is a nice gesture to pay for the first night, whether its them staying with your or in their own rooms.

Kate61487

I would at least chip in for the night you're sharing the room with them (likewise for FI). If you made it seem mandatory they stay there I'd try to cover the full cost for both nights. 

We didn't pay for anyone's hotel other than our own the night of the wedding, but I offered my parent's place (which is where I stayed).  My MOH stayed with me the two nights before and the others shared rooms with other friends who had come in for the wedding.

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If you're all staying in a room together the night before the wedding, and it's mandatory they stay there with you, I'd pay. If it's their decision and you're all just going in on it, pay your fair share.

For the other nights, unless it's mandatory they stay in your hotel, I don't think you need to pay.

As for the affordability, it could be an issue with the area. I know that in my area, finding a room for less than $100 a night is nigh on impossible. I also recently went to a wedding in downtown of a city and, again, the rooms were about $150 a night minimum (making the rooms they'd blocked off the best deal). Sometimes, it is what it is...