Setting my date around other weddings

OnLA

So my FH and I are discussing possible wedding dates, I've always wanted a fall wedding and am hoping for Thanksgiving 2013 (October here in Canada).  I was told a few weeks ago that a friend (was got engaged at Christmas) is having her wedding Labour Day weeking 2013.  Her wedding is going to be in a different province than mine (where most of our mutal guests don't live) the majority live closer to us in our 'new' home province.  I'm just wondering if it's problematic for me to schedule my wedding about 6 weeks after hers?  We're just entering the stage of our lives where weddings are becoming quite frequent and I don't want to step on anyones toes (there have already been some hurt feelings with people who weren't invited to various weddings etc....)

HELP!

HockeyFan4

No that is fine.  I would make sure you talk to your VIPs to make sure they can come....and then since you want to get married on a Holiday weekend, I would make sure you send out STDs.

pokepoke27

 By "close" do you mean that they can travel to and from your wedding in one day? 

If that is the case then I don't see a problem with 6 weeks between your weddings. However, if they will still need to travel and pay for hotel for your wedding it might be a little close for some people. 

But honestly, no date you pick will work for everyone. When choosing a date, make sure it works for your VIPs and go from there. Are any of the guests travelling to your friend's wedding VIPs? If so, you could always ask them if it will be a problem.

aragx6

6 weeks sounds like plenty.

JessAndTrav

I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

In 2009, H and I went to 5 weddings in June. One in Lubbock, One in basically the very middle of Texas and the rest were more local, but at one point, we went to 2 in one day.

We had fun with it. It was busy going to all of those back-to-back, but we still enjoyed ourselves.

frantastic12

6 weeks is fine.  As you said, you're all at a point where weddings are becoming more frequent.  If anything, scheduling it on a holiday weekend will probably affect your RSVPs more than having scheduling 6 weeks apart from your friend's wedding.  I agree w/ PPs, definitely send STDs. 

However, we have friends (in NY) getting married one week after us (in OH) next month, and we have 2 groomsmen who are in both weddings.  We're also attending weddings 3 weekends in a row this fall. So 6 weeks seems like plenty of time to me, but maybe others think differently. 

aragx6

Will it be on Thanksgiving or Thanksgiving weekend? I don't know if Canada is the same as the U.S. in this respect, but you could be my best friend in the entire world and I wouldn't be able to attend a wedding on Thanksgiving. That's the epitome of a family holiday for us.

Lisa50

I don't think 6 weeks is a big deal at all ... that's a TON of time.

libby2483

I am getting married 7 weeks after one of my good friends. Most of our friends did not have to travel for hers, but most will need to travel 2 to 4 hours for ours. All friends that attended hers have already RSVPed yes for ours as well. So it doesn't seem like people mind attending two weddings so close, even with travel. I think you are perfectly fine.

DramaGeek

Summer of 2002 was our big wedding season.  We had 8 weddings in August alone.  You'll never find the perfect date, but 6 weeks difference is definitely doable.  Anyone who would have to travel to both and stay in a hotel may have to choose, but it sounds like that would be a very small number.

TheSlowskys

Six weeks is fine. Just keep in mind there might also be some overlap/scheduling issues with prewedding parties for both (assuming both are offered for both of you). It will be a busy time.

lauraanne9

6 weeks is fine.  And honestly, try as you may, you will NEVER find a day that works for everyone.  We originally were going to get married in December.  Then we decided due to health of VIPs that my family is in better shape to travel than my fiance's, so we moved the location from CA to OH.  Which meant December was out.  I didn;t want to get married when it was too hot or too cold.  I'm picky, LOL.  So we went with the beginning of Oct.  It didn't work for someone, don't remember who now. The middle of Oct didn't work for someone else, the end of September was an issue for my family so I thought I finally had it and went with Sept 8th.  I called the church and told them I wanted the 8th.  We are getitng married at my FFIL's church, he is a long time member, really involved with the church, and also performs at musical events at the church.  We were not able to get the 8th because, you guessed it, there is a musical event at the church that night in which my FFIL is playing.  LOL  I literally at that point said "How about the next weekend?"  It was open.  I took it.  My fiance asked how the date was changed and what happened, I told him that if I didn't just pick a date we would never be getting married, so I went with it.  He laughed.  

And it is not the first decision in this wedding planning thing that has been made for the practicality of the situation.

Ciardasully

I think 6 weeks is fine. 

We have a groomsman getting married two weeks before us, our best man is getting married two weeks after us and his wedding is on a Friday and we have another wedding out of state that Saturday.  One of my bridesmaid is getting married 8 weeks after us in Mexico.  I think sometimes it just works out that way. 

I hope it works out and everyone can attend both.

kikirst33

6 weeks is plenty.

I had 3 weddings in one week and I was in two of them!  It's very considerate to think of your friends, you'll be fine with your timing.

Bec20

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[QUOTE]Will it be on Thanksgiving or Thanksgiving weekend? I don't know if Canada is the same as the U.S. in this respect, but you could be my best friend in the entire world and I wouldn't be able to attend a wedding on Thanksgiving. That's the epitome of a family holiday for us.
Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Aragx, Thanksgiving is much bigger in the US than it is here.   There are no parades and lots of people don't even get together with out of town family.

<div>Thanksgiving is on a Monday here and we have a Saturday-Monday long weekend, so I'm assuming it won't conflict with anybody's Thanksgiving plans if it is on Saturday.  I'd be careful if it was on Sunday though, because I know a lot of people celebrate then.  It would also probably work best if most guests were local, just in case they have regular Thanksgiving plans.</div></div>