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RSVP hell

So, we have responses now from everyone but my cousin and his FI. They never have a working phone number and I have messaged his FI on fb 3 times now. She gets online every day to change her profile picture and to play farmville and she still has not responded. She has steadily ignored all my messages since I told her that I would not be able to get off work to go to their wedding. My mom wants me to just assume that they are coming, but if I'm going to be ignored I'm not sure that I want an ahole like that there in the first place. What would all of you suggest? I'm getting a little tired of the whole "hey, never got your rsvp, can you let me know asap?" thing. The rsvp deadline has come and gone and I am getting extremely pissed off.
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Re: RSVP hell

  • Call them one more time and leave a message.  Say "Hi so and so, how are you?  I just wanted to let you know that since I haven't heard from you, I'm going to have to assume you are not coming unless I hear otherwise by blank date." 
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  • Thanks!  I got them at Aldo in the fall. 
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_rsvp-hell?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:e3efdad2-4a86-4ac9-8b11-790dd14ae7f8Post:d6194faf-5a36-449f-be34-ff265c977513">Re: RSVP hell</a>:
    [QUOTE]Call them one more time and leave a message.  Say "Hi so and so, how are you?  I just wanted to let you know that since I haven't heard from you, I'm going to have to assume you are not coming unless I hear otherwise by blank date." 
    Posted by Habs2Hart[/QUOTE]

    She said they dont have a working phone...
    but I agree with Habs....send her this note but in a fb message.

    Very RUDE & annoying...
    especially since she has planned a wedding before! she should know better!
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_rsvp-hell?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:e3efdad2-4a86-4ac9-8b11-790dd14ae7f8Post:d0286398-7844-456b-bcb7-b85466c29206">Re: RSVP hell</a>:
    [QUOTE]"If we don't hear from you by X date, we'll have to assume you are not attending  since we have to give our final count to the caterer at that time."
    Posted by ILoveMilkDuds[/QUOTE]

    That's definitely what I'll be doing, good wording suggestion. 
  • You've done everything you can so don't feel bad. 

    It's OK to solicit help from your parents in this case.  I would have my Mom (or Dad whoever's side of the family it is) contact their sibling and politely mention that you haven't received a response from their child regarding the wedding and you were wondering if they would be able to make it.




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