So, we have responses now from everyone but my cousin and his FI. They never have a working phone number and I have messaged his FI on fb 3 times now. She gets online every day to change her profile picture and to play farmville and she still has not responded. She has steadily ignored all my messages since I told her that I would not be able to get off work to go to their wedding. My mom wants me to just assume that they are coming, but if I'm going to be ignored I'm not sure that I want an ahole like that there in the first place. What would all of you suggest? I'm getting a little tired of the whole "hey, never got your rsvp, can you let me know asap?" thing. The rsvp deadline has come and gone and I am getting extremely pissed off.