Thanks, you're right

ShereeMcMahan

thanks

FutureMrsTR

Yep and then let it go.  Or you'll get high blood pressure.

Rosie109

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[QUOTE]I'm hoping to purge my annoyance so I can just get over what I see as a complete lack of consideration from a bride in my family. Article 1: postcard-style invites with the logos of her registries prominently displayed, as well as a link to their website featuring obviously professional (and likely expensive) engagement photos. 2: a wedding shower in our hometown (we've both moved away, as have many family members) on a Monday. Because we have nothing better to do than take two days off work, travelling there and back, to attend. 3: Wedding in her current town, which is 7 hours from the closest relative (10 hrs from me) - understandable, not a big deal, .....except its on a Sunday at 5 pm.  I can understand being cost conscious (which I suspect is the reason for the odd time and cheap invites), but it seems as though her priority is to make her guests her last priority. Perhaps I'm out of touch, but I'm very annoyed. I was married last year, and while she did not attend either my shower or wedding, I wasn't offended. She's young, out of town and just beginning a career. However, I also had many out of town guests and made every effort to make the event otherwise convenient and laid-back and fun for everyone (which I think it was). <strong>Should I chalk her choices up to immaturity?
</strong>Posted by ShereeMcMahan[/QUOTE]

I mean you could if you wanted to. I think that as people that post on a wedding message board we are a little more hyper sensitive to the decisions that brides around us make, if that makes any sense.

You really can't do anything about it. If you want to be there to celebrate her marriage you will be. I am not sure what to say.

redheadfsu

She shouldn't have put her registry on her invites.

The rest? Maybe her wedding is very informal & the invites fit that? Maybe her parents are throwing the shower? The location of the shower is chosen by the host, not the bride. Yes, she is being inconsiderate of guests...but just decline.

jferlenda

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[QUOTE]I'm hoping to purge my annoyance so I can just get over what I see as a complete lack of consideration from a bride in my family. Article 1: <strong>postcard-style invites with the logos of her registries prominently displayed, as well as a link to their website featuring obviously professional (and likely expensive) engagement photos.</strong> 2: a wedding shower in our hometown (we've both moved away, as have many family members) on a Monday. Because we have nothing better to do than take two days off work, travelling there and back, to attend. 3: Wedding in her current town, which is 7 hours from the closest relative (10 hrs from me) - understandable, not a big deal, .....except its on a Sunday at 5 pm.  I can understand being cost conscious (which I suspect is the reason for the odd time and cheap invites), but it seems as though her priority is to make her guests her last priority. Perhaps I'm out of touch, but I'm very annoyed. I was married last year, and while she did not attend either my shower or wedding, I wasn't offended. She's young, out of town and just beginning a career. However, I also had many out of town guests and made every effort to make the event otherwise convenient and laid-back and fun for everyone (which I think it was). Should I chalk her choices up to immaturity?
Posted by ShereeMcMahan[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Not really sure about this part.  Yes, it's very poor etiquette to indicate your registries on the invitation, but I don't really see a problem with the other 2 things there.  Is it the reply card that is a postcard?  This is actually a growing trend and isn't poor etiquette, but just a more informal (and yes, cheaper) way to do the replies.  And for the website with the photos: I wouldn't put my website right on the invite...Maybe on the STDs or a separate card, but why are you against her having her engagement photos on the site?  I don't get it.

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ShakeUpTampa

Here is my POV

I would think it was unclassy they put their registry on there, but she looks like the idiot

I would not attend a Monday shower out of town

I probably would not attend a Wedding OOT that started that late unless it was immediate family and I was there for a few days (My wedding is a Sunday, my Uncle is flying in like Thur or Fri and back out on Monday) We are hoping to end reception at 8 or 9pm from an afternoon ceremony. I understand the locals have to work too :-)

noodle_oo

1.  Yeah, the invites sound tacky (the registry info on them anyway).

2.  Maybe your invite was a courtesy invite to the shower.  She can't expect you to take off work for a shower.  I just wouldn't go.  (never heard of a shower on a monday)

3.  Sunday weddings are becoming much more common. While it does suck if you have to travel, you just have to decide how important going to the wedding is to you.  I personally woudln't do it because having everyone attend was important to me, but maybe her vision for her wedding is different.

Just try not to take her choices personally.  She may be acting immaturely or maybe these are just the only dates that work for her.  Give her the benefit of the doubt and try not to hold it against her. 

Ghoti

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[QUOTE]1.  Yeah, the invites sound tacky (the registry info on them anyway). 2.  Maybe your invite was a courtesy invite to the shower.  She can't expect you to take off work for a shower.  I just wouldn't go.  (never heard of a shower on a monday) 3.  Sunday weddings are becoming much more common. While it does suck if you have to travel, you just have to decide how important going to the wedding is to you.  I personally woudln't do it because having everyone attend was important to me, but maybe her vision for her wedding is different. Just try not to take her choices personally.  She may be acting immaturely or maybe these are just the only dates that work for her.  Give her the benefit of the doubt and try not to hold it against her. 
Posted by noodle_oo[/QUOTE]
I agree with this. She also probably isn't the one who planned the shower, you'd have to take that up with the host.  It seems a little harsh to call her immature for those decisions.