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Update: FMIL

Hey all,

I posted yesterday about worrying if FMIL could make it to my shower because they were considering sending her down to the Mayo clinic for GI surgery. Good news; she's not getting surgery. Bad news, she's not getting surgery. They did a PET scan on Wednesday, and it's metastasized to her spine in three places. FMIL has no real choices here. Radiation is out, because she has so much scarring from the last time she had it done when she was 32, and the chemo they could give her would give her at most three extra months on top of what she has now, but if you're familiar with chemo, it gives you three extra months, but you're quality of life goes in the toilet.

So, anyway, I just wanted to give an update, in case anyone was curious. I apologize if I spend a lot of time on here, freaking out, but FMIL is insistent that we stay the course and have the wedding as planned. And, at this point, we only want what she wants. So, I may have periods of stressed out insanity in the coming weeks. Sorry in advance for taking it out on you poor people.

Re: Update: FMIL

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_update-fmil?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:e50592ff-82f1-4964-800a-da78a7a7974dPost:2d4c46e6-911b-453f-8a1f-9f914f3d71b1">Update: FMIL</a>:
    [QUOTE]Hey all, I posted yesterday about worrying if FMIL could make it to my shower because they were considering sending her down to the Mayo clinic for GI surgery. Good news; she's not getting surgery. Bad news, she's not getting surgery. They did a PET scan on Wednesday, and it's metastasized to her spine in three places. FMIL has no real choices here. Radiation is out, because she has so much scarring from the last time she had it done when she was 32, and the chemo they could give her would give her at most three extra months on top of what she has now, but if you're familiar with chemo, it gives you three extra months, but you're quality of life goes in the toilet. So, anyway, I just wanted to give an update, in case anyone was curious. I apologize if I spend a lot of time on here, freaking out, but FMIL is insistent that we stay the course and have the wedding as planned. And, at this point, we only want what she wants. So, I may have periods of stressed out insanity in the coming weeks. Sorry in advance for taking it out on you poor people.
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  • Oh, I'm so sorry. You just freak out all you need to, we'll understand!
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  • I am so very sorry to hear your news.  Hugs to you and FI.  Step back from everything wedding related for a few days and just be with each other.  I have been in your shoes and to say it kicks the wind out of you is an understatement.  Many hugs and prayers for you guys.
  • I am so sorry, I am so sorry you guys are going through this, I dont know what else to say <3

    Don't apologize for talking about it here, if you need to vent then go ahead. 

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  • I'm so sorry that you got this news.  I'm sure it is devastating.  T&P your way
  • I'm so sorry.  Sending thoughts and prayers to you and FI and your ILs. 
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  • LMC, I am so sorry to hear about the news you all received.  Like PP said, this is definitely a good place to vent.  T&P's to you, FI, FMIL, and your families.
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  • I'm so sorry.
  • I'm so sorry. I will be thinking of you and your family.
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  • Cutie, so very sorry. Can't even imagine losing someone so close to you during such an important time. Vent away.
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