XP - Rehearsal Dinner Invitation Etiquette

Mimmer04

Is it ok etiquette was to include the rehearsal dinner invite in the same envelope as the wedding invite?  Only some people will get the rehearsal dinner invite, but those that don't won't have any idea that it is missing.  We were planning on doing it this way (with two different response cards, one that includes the rehearsal dinner and one that doesn't depending on the recepient), but my parents say its bad etiquette; that the rehearsal dinner invite and rsvp card should be a separate mailing. What do you think?  Can we do it in one mailing or should it be separate?

jessicabessica

I would do them as separate mailings, if only so you don't have to worry about accidentally putting it in someone's envelope that isn't invited to the RD.  If they are being hosted by different people, they should be different mailings as well.

mlg78

Rehearsal dinner invitations should be separate.  Not everyone included on the wedding invite is necessarily invited to the RD (ie - kids).

loca4pook

Are rehearsal dinner invites necessary? I was just going to spread word to my wedding party and immediate family...

manjermj

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[QUOTE]Are rehearsal dinner invites necessary? I was just going to spread word to my wedding party and immediate family...
Posted by loca4pook[/QUOTE]

<div>I didn't send rehearsal dinner invites. I just let my wedding party know what the deal was and everyone that should have been there was there right on time. So no, I don't think they're necessary if you don't want to send them.</div>

McRogol

Great question...We're inviting everyone to the RD - technically its more of a welcome party and to brunch the next day - everyone is coming from OOT, some farthuer than others and will need to arrive the day before in order to make it to the wedding on time.  I was going to put it all in the wedding invite since when put altogether its a pretty even spilt on whose paying between our families....Is this wrong to do?  I thought it would be easier for our guests to RSVP just once....

Sorry for hijacking your post OP!

Jen4948

I think it depends on how formal the rehearsal dinner is.

If it's relatively informal (say a backyard barbecue), you can use word-of-mouth or electronic means to issue invitations, but for something like a formal dinner party, I think you need written invitations.  Either way, I'd keep them separate from the wedding invitations.