Bridal Shower brawl

Jcaru85

My mom and I are going to have duke it out soon if we cannot come to an agreement about the food for my wedding shower!

She says it MUST be catered, reason being people are bringing gifts to me and you provide good food throughout the shower for them, and it will be presented well from a caterer.

My Fiance is an excellent cook (and used to cooking for 50+ people) and I am trying to help everyone save money and he offered himself to cook everything for us all.  He could do the same food as a caterer.  I know he would do a very good job.

I guess my question is does the shower HAVE to be catered or can my fiance do the cooking?  Any suggestions would be great!  Thank you!!

opalsky007

Why is this such an issue? Let whomever is hosting the shower (that should not be you) decide.

FWIW, it's fine to just serve munchies or cake. I don't get why showers are so elaborate lately.

maggyruth

We're having home-made mostacoli at mine.

Seriously...it's not High Tea with the Queen.  It's a bridal shower.

She who hosts decides...they're the one forking over the money for it.

PharmacyBride

No it doesn't have to be catered.  I prefer good home cooking a million times over catered food.

Who is paying for the shower?  You mentioned trying to save everyone $.. will their budgets allow for this?

Also- do a little research about presentation and you can find out how to have a very nice set-up.

I believe that if people want to insist on what is considered a "must have" - they should pull out their wallet first.  But this is just my opinion.

sucrets4

It doesn't have to be catered, but it also shouldn't be a huge deal.

Who is hosting it?  It should be their choice, regardless of what your FI wants to do.

MyNameIsNot

Catering is not necessary.  It's up to the host to decide what she wants to do.  It's really inappropriate for you to have anything to do with planning the shower.

If your mom is throwing it, leave her alone.  

danieliza1127

This should be left up to the hostess of the shower, no you or your Mom (unless your Mom is hosting).