How to respond to the kids question?

Pjb1211

The wedding is in two days. Besides being super excited, I know that the kids questions are coming. We've already been asked by people which I find ridiculous unless they want us to start trying before the wedding - how would I fit in my dress? :-) My sister was asked a ton at her wedding when she was going to have kids. What is a tactful way to respond? Besides, none of your business. We don't want to have kids for quite a while, but either way we could have a surprise, we could have trouble, anything could happen. I just don't want to give anyone a response. How do I handle it while still being polite?

dumdumfroggie

"We haven't planned anything yet.  Right now we're just excited to be getting married.  Thanks for coming."

Then walk away...

dumdumfroggie

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[QUOTE]Awkward. Just change the subject; people forget how intrusive the question is.<strong> I would be impressed if you were showing after being pregnant for two days.</strong>
Posted by KindaSparkly[/QUOTE]

<div>Huh?  She's not pregnant now.</div>

Megbo2012

"Well, the sooner everyone leaves the sooner he can impregnate me!" 

Totally kidding.  I like MilkDud's response.  Someone asked me this after I told them I was engaged and I was super taken aback.  Clearly procreating is the ONLY reason to get married. *eye roll*

PetalPockets2012

I am with PP. Best to change the subject and/or walk away after a quick comment back.

Pjb1211

No definitely not pregnant now. It was a joke. They asked like six months ago when we were having kids. I was baffled.

These were my go to sassy responses:

"I already have 150 [kids] so I think we're going to wait a little while." - I am a teacher

My other choice was to rub my belly and say, "Two months." Then it's obvious I'm lying.

Pjb1211

I like that response Megbo! I might use that!

MoonlightSilver

"I'm not sure, we haven't figure out how to make them yet. Can you tell me how?" 

Only if you want to freak people out, though. 

lenergyrlah

"when do you plan to have kids?"

"Approximately nine months after conception, we hope!"

My friend told me she's so tired of being asked that next time her parents ask, she and her husband will say "why don't we try now?" stand up and leave the room!

MyNameIsNot

You could always try the old bust into tears and run out of the room, and have your FI quietly tell the asker that you can't have kids.  

redheadfsu

If you want to keep it polite. Just say, "not sure" Then ask them "how's the food?" or some other question to change the topic.

rebarobert2012

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[QUOTE]"when do you plan to have kids?" "Approximately nine months after conception, we hope!" My friend told me she's so tired of being asked that next time her parents ask, she and her husband will say "why don't we try now?" stand up and leave the room!
Posted by lenergyrlah[/QUOTE]

I love this!!

staceycaine

I'd say you already worked on it on the limo on the way to the reception. Fingers crossed and all that.

jmconley08

Why are people so rude. I know FI and I will get this questions tons and I will be more annoyed with each time it gets asked. We may never ever have them. I will probably say that and get a whiny "But whyyy" ugh lol Why does everything think you're a bad person if you don't want kids?

Kate61487

I've gotten that question regularly over the last year; my default answer has become "not today" and I just leave it at that.

StephBeanWed61502

I've started going with "as soon as someone offers us free childcare" (or, if its one of the moms asking, I go with "as soon as you retire so you can watch them for us.")  FI and I both have busy careers, and a few big financial milestones we need to hit before we're ready, so kids are definitely not practical for us right now, and I've found this response tends to shut down the nosy parkers.