The Other Woman

ExpatPumpkin

S/O the Edwards post...

There are two obvious victims here:  his wife and the little girl he had with his mistress.  But what about the mistress?  Does she also deserve sympathy?  And have YOU ever been the other woman?

danieliza1127

I voted No.  She knew who he was, she knew he was married.  I don't really see why she would deserve any sympathy.  Him lying about her and subsequently their child shouldn't be a surprise to her you know?

laurenclaire1386

The mistress knew good and damn well what she was doing and who she was doing it with.

ThePinkSuperhero

No, particularly not in this instance.  That Rielle Hunter woman is totally batty.

RachNRich

I voted yes. I feel he had a bit of a "power" over her---had he not been John Edwards, she may not have got herself in to this situation. They worked together, no?

Either way, I think sleeping with a taken man is shiit, and I do not care what the situation is. 

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

FI and I were watching an episode of Gossip Girl about this. I'm like, "Uh, self control, people." It's not unknown that he was married. If a guy is pulling the wool over your eyes and you break it off when you find out he's married, fine. Then I fel bad for you. But knowingly sleeping with a powerful and obviously married man? Why?

MeaghanandMichael

Just because a woman is stupid enough/has low enough self esteem to be wooed and manipulated by a powerful, rich, good looking man, she doesn't deserve sympathy. I just thinks she is dumb. Either you know what you are doing and you accept all the responsibility and challenges that brings or you just stay away.

MyNameIsNot

I don't feel sorry for her, but I don't think she's the one who should get all the blame in this situation either.  He's the one that took a vow and broke it.  But there are definitely times when a woman really believes the guy when he says they've separated or isn't married, and I do feel some sympathy for those women. 

I have a big chip on my shoulder about wives and girlfriends blaming the other woman when it's so clear that the one really at fault is the cheating guy.  I watch too much Cheaters.

saschaduran

I do not blame the other woman...if a man's going to cheat he wil lfind someone to cheat with.  She was not the one with the vow.

I also do not sympathize with her.  She knew what she was getting into so she is not the victim.

But I don't think she is the bad guy either...the married man with the vow is the bad guy.

AlexiaANDRobert

This whole situation really annoys me.  I know I'm late to this, but I have NO sympathy for the "other woman".  There are rare cases where women meet a married man and they lie about their status - that you have no control over, but even the ones who date men that are married but on the "outs" should wait until the divorce is final.

I feel SO BAD for the little girl and JE's wife.  Neither of them did anything to deserve the publicity or the embarassment this caused everyone.

Like in Tiger's situation, I feel bad for the kids.  They play all kinds of ridiculous commercials of Bill Clinton's voice telling Tiger how to lie.  It's pathetic.

rodeo417

I voted no. She knew he was married and she fell for the bait. The only people I feel sorry for his wife and the baby. If you lay down with dogs, you'll gonna get fleas....