RANT: What is up with people assuming they will be invited?!

AlexaGrant

I'm sure this topic has been covered MANY times on the board, but I just wanted to rant about people who are acquaintences making comments that assume they will be invited to the wedding. 

First of all, my wedding is in MA and I doubt people in DC would want to travel for it if they aren't close friends.  Second, you are an acquaintance, I dont' know you well enough for you to be invited to our special day!  Third, I may not be having a "small" guest list, but for me 220 people is small when you're Greek and both parents are divorced and remarried!

So far I've been kind of ignoring the comments since the wedding is far away and these people will probably be out of my life anyway when it comes time to send invites, but still, it's annoying!

/vent

salt78

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[QUOTE]our special day! 
Posted by AlexaGrant[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm sorry. I just vomited all over myself. </div>

georgia_bride09

Yep. That's just part of planning a wedding. People always assume things that aren't true.

Just keep on ignoring them. They'll realize they're not invited when they don't receive invitations.

kikibaby

Ooooh weeee what's up with that? What's up with that!

swtasa

Alexa, I'd suggest being completely mum on the fact your getting married at all to anyone unless they're invited.

Apparently many people in the world believe the mention of having a fiance means they are automatically included to the wedding. No idea why, apparently some peoples parents never raised them better then that.

I am sorry though people are driving you nuts with it

laurenclaire1386

People very rarely think of the money that goes into a wedding. They're seeing it as a fun party and not thinking of the fact that you (or whoever) are the one footing the bill for it. Shrug it off, be vague. It's part of being engaged.

JessAndTrav

What Georgia (and Salt) said.

ThePinkSuperhero

They're just excited for you!  Take it as a compliment.

AlexaGrant

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_rant-up-people-assuming-will-invited?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:e72d829f-475b-4681-9530-6b93c717a3b5Post:20400d16-c44d-4cf2-b5fb-974253374b27">Re: RANT: What is up with people assuming they will be invited?!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to RANT: What is up with people assuming they will be invited?! : I'm sorry. I just vomited all over myself. 
Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]

Haha, I meant that more tongue in cheek.

JessAndTrav

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: RANT: What is up with people assuming they will be invited?! : Haha, I meant that more tongue in cheek.
Posted by AlexaGrant[/QUOTE]

I bet.

wcvsb3b5

I've had people come right out and say "I can't wait until your wedding" and "Am I invited" and when I explain no they get all sad acting (like a child). I have one girl who asks me everytime I see her if she is invited yet!! Granted, she is like 18 so idk if she doesn't realize how rude it is or what. But I want to just scream NO YOU"RE NOT INVITED! but I don't want to be mean so I just say no, sorry.

Lenore2010

This very syndrome had a lot to do with driving us into a destination wedding. Our original plan was to have fifty people here at home, but there was no possible way to do it. Every time we said anything about the wedding, everyone we spoke to thought they were coming. My fiance's entire office thought they were coming.

He had the idea of inviting a small number to the wedding and then everyone to the reception. The trouble was, I always thought that sounded rude (like some people were not worthy of inviting to the ceremony, but you were just fine with having them come and bring a gift to the reception!). Besides, the reception is where the costs come in not the wedding.

I sympathize with your problem.