Review my wedding day timeline?

Jdog99

Take a look at my timeline and give suggestions please.  I feel like I'm missing something.  FYI, I know there isn't info about GM and Groom getting ready bc I have no idea what their schedule will be - they are going to be at a different house in the morning and probably won't follow a timeline anyway.  

Wedding Day Timeline 11/10/2012

6:30 AM: BMs, Bride, MOB wake-up, bathe, get dressed, eat breakfast

7:45 AM: BMs, Bride, MOB drive to J&J Hair Salon (everyone drive themselves/in pairs and drive back to Bride House when hair is finished)

8:00 AM – 9:00 AM: Bride hair

9:00 AM – 9:30 AM: Bride Makeup

9:00 AM – 11:30 AM: BMs hair (MOH first)

10:00 AM – 12:00 PM: BMs, MOB, FOB, Bride Relax at Bride House, take a few pictures

12:05 PM: Leave Bride House for Church.  Bride rides with MOB and FOB.  BMs drive themselves

12:15 PM: Bride, BMs, MOB, FOB arrive at church through back entrance and go to Room 9 until mass begins

1:00 PM – 2:00 PM: Mass

2:00 PM: Mass is over, guests head to reception site.  Wedding party stays for pictures

2:00 PM – 2:20 PM: Pictures at Church

2:30 PM – 3:20 PM: Pictures at Seminary

2:30 PM: Passed hors d’oeuvres begin for guests, bar opens

3:30 PM: Wedding Party arrives at Reception Site

3:30 PM – 3:45 PM: Wedding Party introductions, B/G first dance, Father-Daughter Dance, Mother-Son Dance.

3:45 PM – 4:30PM: Heavy hors d’oeuvres stations open, everyone eats dinner and mingles

4:30 PM: Toast and Cake Cutting

4:45 PM – 6:30 PM: Drinking and Dancing

Around 6:30 PM – 7:00 PM: B & G exit reception

melb2013

I don't really know about this stuff, but I'd like to say that I appreciate the lack of gap between the church ceremony and the reception.  As a guest, I'd be one happy camper!

s-aries8990

I agree with PP. Start serving Hors d'ourves as soon as they arrive. Sounds good to me!

AngelaReneeClaire

Just a side note, something I heard from a hair dresser friend of mine- Washing your hair the day of, or even the day before, makes it difficult to do hair. Having a little bit of the natural oils there makes everything hold better. Just a thought. 

Do the groom and groomsmen get to just hangout during the day?

Everything else looks good, imho! I like that you're riding to the church with your parents.

KellyBrian2013

In Response to Re: Review my wedding day timeline?:
[QUOTE]Just a side note, something I heard from a hair dresser friend of mine- Washing your hair the day of, or even the day before, makes it difficult to do hair. Having a little bit of the natural oils there makes everything hold better. Just a thought.  Do the groom and groomsmen get to just hangout during the day? Everything else looks good, imho! I like that you're riding to the church with your parents.
Posted by AngelaReneeClaire[/QUOTE]

Yup. My stylist asked all of the girls to show up day-of with "one-day-dirty" hair... we all showered the morning of the wedding, but none of us washed our hair.

She also said not to flat-iron it (blow drying the day before was okay) because it's next to impossible to do anything with hair that has been flat-ironed.

Jdog99

Thanks, ladies.  Food and drink will begin as soon as guests arrive, so that will be great I think.  The boys will all be at my Uncle's house (spending the night after RD) and I have no idea what they will be doing.  Probably best if I don't know.  As long as they arrive at the church fully clothed in their tuxes & on time for the mass, I'll be happy.  Oh and my hairdresser told me that too.  I think I'll take a bath the morning of so I won't have to wash my hair.

Jdog99

I wish I could flat iron my hair for the rehearsal/dinner =(  I guess I will just wear it pulled back after it air dries because it is a HOT MESS if I don't flat iron.  

SlothGoals

The only thing that concerns me is that all at 2:00 your mass ends and guests leave and your pictures start. You might want a little bit of time between mass ending and pictures starting just in case guests stop to congratulate you on their way out. It's happened at a few of the church ceremonies I've been to; just something to consider!

Jdog99

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[QUOTE]The only thing that concerns me is that all at 2:00 your mass ends and guests leave and your pictures start. You might want a little bit of time between mass ending and pictures starting just in case guests stop to congratulate you on their way out. It's happened at a few of the church ceremonies I've been to; just something to consider!
Posted by kristbot[/QUOTE]

<div>That's true.  I've been trying to think how we'll handle that.  I don't want to be rude with guests, but I don't want to get stuck talking to people forever since that's what the reception is for.  Maybe I'll make my photographer the "bad guy" and tell people that we need to take pictures and can chat at the reception.</div>

SlothGoals

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Review my wedding day timeline? : That's true.  I've been trying to think how we'll handle that.  I don't want to be rude with guests, but I don't want to get stuck talking to people forever since that's what the reception is for.  Maybe I'll make my photographer the "bad guy" and tell people that we need to take pictures and can chat at the reception.
Posted by Jdog99[/QUOTE]

Maybe if you plan on taking pictures outside of the church, or in a specific part of the church, you can do those  immediately after you exit the mass? That way as guests are leaving they'll see you're already busy taking pictures or they won't see you at all because you're not in the general vicinity.

Jdog99

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Review my wedding day timeline? : Maybe if you plan on taking pictures outside of the church, or in a specific part of the church, you can do those  immediately after you exit the mass? That way as guests are leaving they'll see you're already busy taking pictures or they won't see you at all because you're not in the general vicinity.
Posted by kristbot[/QUOTE]

<div>Unfortunately our church is very small and actually isn't very pretty (it's the church I grew up in, which is why we picked it anyway) so there won't be too many pictures to take.  Most of them will probably in the sanctuary. Maybe I'll ask the ushers to encourage people towards the door when mass is over.  Haha.  Either way, I should probably add another 10 minutes to picture time at the church.  And crap, I forgot lunch too.</div>

KellyBrian2013

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[QUOTE]I wish I could flat iron my hair for the rehearsal/dinner =(  I guess I will just wear it pulled back after it air dries because it is a HOT MESS if I don't flat iron.  
Posted by Jdog99[/QUOTE]

FWIW, I washed mine the day before and flat-ironed it for the rehearsal/RD... then showered again as soon as I got back to the hotel so that it had time to get a little bit of grease/dirt built up overnight. Not exactly what my stylist recommended, but it worked fine.

CALEO

Can you just ask your BMs to be at the Salon at 9 am and give them the option to come earlier to hang out?

I personally wouldnt ask my BMs to get up at 6:30 for 9 am hair and make up.

Also - how many BMs do you have?  How many stylists?  2.5 hours for hair and make up seems ambitious.  We just did it this past weekend and BMs were at the salon from 9-2.  There were 7 BMs and 2 stylists.  Brides hair went late (was supposed to be done by 9) and it took a while.

RebeccaB88

I don't think the bridesmaids need to be at the salon until time for their hair appointments.  They could just meet up at the salon, then drive themselves to your house.

You didn't schedule lunch in there anywhere.  Can you have something at your house during the 10-12 time frame like sandwich trays, fruit, cheese and crackers, etc?  No one needs to be going from 6:30am until almost 4pm with nothing to eat.  Don't want to risk anyone passing out during the ceremony. 

gurrlballa10

I'd also recommend you be last to get your hair and makeup done.  That way it's the freshest. 

FWIW, I washed my hair about 30 minutes before I got it done and it turned out awesome.  Some people can't go a day without washing otherwise they will look like a grease monkey.

[Deleted User]

Good way to get rid of lingering guests after cermony is do what is refered to as a get away trip. Have someone in a car be it your dad or a groomsmen in a car near the entrance. After the ceremony you exit the church, everyone is standing there wishing you well, you & groom jump in the car & drive off. The guests will leave. You come back 10 minutes later & do photos in peace & quiet. You just have to make sure your bridal party & family that is suppose to be in pictures is aware you are doing this so they stick around.

One other suggestion, i would plan for lunch/snacks for bridal party. Else you'll all be going a long time between breakfast & reception & that could lead to people not feeling well or cranky BM.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]I wish I could flat iron my hair for the rehearsal/dinner =(  I guess I will just wear it pulled back after it air dries because it is a HOT MESS if I don't flat iron.  
Posted by Jdog99[/QUOTE]

You can also wet your hair the morning-of, but not wash it, and let it air dry.

BUT I washed my hair on my wedding day. I don't wash my hair every day, but when I don't, my roots are greasy and I didn't want that on my wedding day.

Oh, I'm not sure why you have people "hanging out" at your house for 2 hours. Unless you have that time in case hair appointments go long? You can probably condense that to 1 hour. You can put out sandwiches or bagels or whatever while people are getting their hair done.

samantha24p

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Review my wedding day timeline? : You can also wet your hair the morning-of, but not wash it, and let it air dry. BUT I washed my hair on my wedding day. I don't wash my hair every day, but when I don't, my roots are greasy and I didn't want that on my wedding day. Oh, I'm not sure why you have people "hanging out" at your house for 2 hours. Unless you have that time in case hair appointments go long? You can probably condense that to 1 hour. You can put out sandwiches or bagels or whatever while people are getting their hair done.
Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]



Please don't wet your hair the day of your wedding. It'll make your hair appt go longer. Plus I feel like the hair never comes up as good as if you started with dry dirty hair. Also wear a button down shirt so not to mess your hair when changing. I don't mind when my clients flatiron there hair the day before the wedding as long as they don't do it the day of the wedding. Your stylist should also have dry shampoo if your roots get greasy.

bridalmarch

The girl who's doing my hair told me to go last as well.