If you're over 30, do your parents still pay?

EliLeamy

Greetings brides,

I'm a journalist writing a story for NextAvenue.org, a website for people in their 50s and 60s.  Since many people wait longer to get married these days, the parents of those getting married are likely in their 50s or 60s, so I'm writing about the etiquette of who pays for the wedding in this instance.  If you are in your 30s (or older) with parents in their 50s or 60s, I'd love to include your experiences in my piece.  I would identify you just by first name and last initial and the state where you live.  I'd like to know:

--Are you paying for your own wedding?  Are your parents paying?  Are the groom's parents paying for more than just the traditional rehearsal dinner?  

--If the costs are shared, are you splitting them in any interesting ways that other families could learn from?

--How did you broach the wedding payment issue with your parents and was it easy or awkward?

--Any other details of your situation that might be helpful?

I look forward to hearing from/learning from you.  (My deadline is Friday, so hope to tap into your Knot community in the  next couple of days!

Thanks,

Elisabeth Leamy (www.elisabethleamy.com)

Journalist

AdeleDazeem

I don't think you're allowed to post this here.

RebeccaB88

Not only do I not think you're allowed to post this here, but it's not really any of your business.  Whoever wants to pay, can pay. The End.

tiny speck

I also agree this shouldn't be posted here, but what's with the assumption that if you are over 30 your parents will be in their 50s or 60s? I'm in my 20s and my mom is in her 50s, my dad in his 60s. Oh, and it's none of your business who's paying for what. Your questions aren't exactly unique to 'older' brides. Weird.

Peledreamsofrain

Did the OP ask us to share who paid for our weddings?  Nosey.

RamonaFlowers

If you're old enough to get married, you're old enough to pay for your damned wedding.

[Deleted User]

Not sure what original post was but I agree with PP, you should plan the wedding you and your FI can afford to pay for no matter what your age is. If family/friends offer to help out with money or other types of donations bonus, but don't count on it.

s-aries8990

Parents only pay if they are willing to contribute, and that goes for a bride of any age. I'm 22 and I know my parents wouldn't be able to pay for much, and even if they WERE able, that's only if they are willing to contribute.

I think its between the parents and adult children.

AdeleDazeem

The original post was a "journalist" writing an article. 

s-aries8990

oh..... gotcha

RebeccaB88

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_if-youre-over-30-do-your-parents-still-pay?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:e785f9ac-2b02-47bb-a340-17086031b818Post:80ce8473-4eee-44c1-bb03-347220c06415">Re: If you're over 30, do your parents still pay?</a>:
[QUOTE]The original post was a "journalist" writing an article. 
Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]

A "journalist" who apparently doesn't know how to read or understand the TOS of this website.  Something about if it's wrong or politically incorrect for "older" engaged couples (as in, over age 30) to let their parents pay for their weddings.  And yes, she did ask us to share with her who paid for/is paying for our weddings.  Either a super rude, nosy person or someone trying to start a fight.

RamonaFlowers

"Greetings brides,I'm a journalist writing a story for *website name* a website for people in their 50s and 60s.  ...  (My deadline is Friday, so hope to tap into your Knot community in the  next couple of days!"


That was the beginning and end of the OP. I pulled it from the RSS feed. She's looking for a free focus group. You need to pay TK if you want to exploit information from the posters.