Here's the deal - My fiance and I have already hashed out the details (for the most part) of how we want our wedding to go. We want it cheap, simple, and most of all easy! I'm being my own wedding planner at this point, so my questions are these:
1) Is there a tacful way to ask our respective parents to help us with the wedding, monetarily? We're both rather blunt, but just going to our parents and saying, "Hey, we're getting married, y'all should do (insert task here)" seems like an over-stepping of boundaries on MANY different levels.
2) We want to invite guests from out of town, but still have a backyard style wedding. However, this presents a problem, since we don't have much driveway space, only one spare room, and no real way to cover hotel and rental vehicle costs. That being said, we also don't want to inconvenience our guests by making them pay out-of-pocket just to come see us, on top of any gifts they might wish to purchase off of our registries. Any helpful advice there? I'm more than open to any suggestions on this one.
3) As with the out-of-towners, any Groomsmen and Honor Guards-men (that's right ladies, no bridesmaids here!) will more than likely have to pay out-of-pocket for their attire. We're going to be pretty relaxed on what we ask them to wear. As long as it looks nice and incorperates out color scheme of ivory and red, we're good! But, I hate to have to tell them that they'll have to pay for their attire on top of the gas to get to the wedding. Again, tactful monetary advice is necessary... Please?
4) Religion. This is a question that I KNOW daunts just about every couple who has multi-faith family and friends. My fiance and I are mostly agnostic, but lean towards being almost pagan, for me, and taoist for him. His parents, however, are very Southern Baptist, and mine are an undenominational christian conglomerate (my father was raised Roman Catholic, but doesn't practice it, and my mother is a relaxed yet devout Christian). While my parents have no problems with our faiths, even going so far as to encourage them (something I love my parents dearly for), his parents have no clue, but would likely be very offended if we made our "heathen" preferences known. Seeing as how they might end up having a monetary say in our wedding, this, as I'm sure you can see, just might cause one heck of a tussle over who will officiate our wedding. Once again, a question of tact has come to light. Questions, comments, advice on issue number 4?
Well ladies and gents (if any sirs do grace us with their welcome presence!), my list of grievances is coming to a close. Answer away, please!