This is not made up what so ever & i have dealt with this situation many years ago so i am comfortable talking about it. I hadn't given it any thought until now, when reading another post but now i am in a bit of a tizzy.
I was molested as a child by an uncle. When i dealt with it as an adult through councelling i talked to him, i got past it (honestly) & i am fine with him, i can hug him etc n be comfortable, i have no worries what so ever of him doing anything to anyone else, since he gave up alcohol he is a different person & i can't see him ever doing that again to someone.
It came out 20 years ago & my mom has hated herself for having him babysit us etc, ya know the normal feelings a parent goes through when they realise they didn't protect their child (no way could she have known). Now she absoultely HATES this man, she has gotten so upset with me in the past for having anything to do with him, but if i didn't that would mean i wouldn't have much to do with my family.
She does NOT understand how i could forgive him, but it was killing me before i did & i was the ONLY one suffering by keeping it in. I explained that to her & she still does not understand it, she is more bitter than i am.
Here is my problem, she hasn't seen him in 20 years, since it came out, still hates him to this day. She probably won't drink much so may keep it together but i am not sure about that. I am inviting my uncle to my wedding. The fact i am her daughter getting married would not stop her from freaking out & having a breakdown. She will NOT understand how my abuser could be at my wedding. We do not EVER talk about him unless it is her upset that i talk to him.
What can i do or how do i go about this? I am sure at one point i am going to have to bring it up to my aunt & tell her to let him know to steer clear of my mom at all times if he possibly can & i will seat them far apart but i can see this being a disaster, how i never thought about it before is beyond me.
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