To register or not

wilkersonm07

This will be my second marriage ( I am a widow) and my fiance's first wedding.  Is it ok for us to register for gifts under my circumstances?  and I didnt have a formal wedding the first time due to the fact that my late husband had to have heart surgery soon, so we canceled our wedding for a justice of the peace ceramony.

opinions please....Thanks

Misty

Beachy730

I personally wouldn't see anything wrong with you registering. 

MeaghanandMichael

Some people do have problems with second wedding registries, but I don't. I think gifts are most about the guests in the sense that people who care about you will still want guidelines on how best to wish you well. I would not be offended.

As a guest I would be happy to know what you wanted.

emyinpink

I wouldn't have a problem with it as a guest. Now if it was your third wedding....and it was clear the registry was only items for the bride, then I might.

Beachy730

Okay, M&M and emyinpink, either you're the same person or your pictures are waaaayyy to similar! 

kimp67

I say register!  We weren't going to until reading the advice on the gifts/registry board & changed our minds!

bczican77

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[QUOTE]I wouldn't have a problem with it as a guest. Now if it was your third wedding....and it was clear the registry was only items for the bride, then I might.
Posted by emyinpink[/QUOTE]

Hahaha!  Your post made me smile!  I am engaged to be married next June (my third marriage! LOL), and my fiance has never been married.  I kinda shrunk in my chair just a smidge! LOL

Anyway, we actually did decide to do a registry on the advice of family and some friends.  I felt funny doing one, especially because we have lived together over 2 years and have everything we could possibly "need".  However, our family members felt that by registering, we are giving our guests an option of what gift to give.  Either something off our registry, or cash.  So, with that being said, we registered at a couple different places and only put a few things on each.

I think it's perfectly fine for you to register.  There is nothing written in stone that says your guests HAVE to get you a gift, and there's definitely nothing written in stone that they HAVE to get you anything off your registry. It is simply put there to help people with ideas.

Have fun registering! :-)